Have a 13 yr old son who is still wetting the bed. Looking for any advice to get this dealt with. Single father but his mother wet beds till around the same age. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.

  • Vicky
    Mar 18, 2018

    Have you spoken to your family doctor?

  • Dale
    Mar 18, 2018

    They pretty much say over and over that, he will stop when he is ready and that if his mother was that way that is why he is. But I am hoping there is something to aid this very long journey.

  • Israel
    Mar 18, 2018

    My stepson's biological father wet the bed well into his teens. My SS, is currently 8 and shows no signs of stopping. We talked to his doctor and he was referred to a urologist. It seems there's a chemical imbalance that needs to be addressed. I suggest speaking with your pediatrician.

  • Justin
    Mar 19, 2018

    I have an 8 year old ss w/ 0 interest in trying not to wet the bed. He still wears a diaper to bed even. My 10 year old son still wets sometimes but is conscious of it and really wants to be able to stop. The biggest thing I notice is my 8yr old is an insanely DEEP sleeper. Even with not drinking for like 2 hours before bed he manages to wet every single night. Too bad the doctor didn't give you any advice at all.

  • April
    Mar 19, 2018

    My 8 yr still has night problems. Have you gotten a sleep study done? Is it possible that he has sleep apnea which is causing him not to be able to wake himself up? One thing that really helps us is to not allow any fluids after 6:00pm and for his 6:00 drink it is only 6-8 oz of water. Also, remind him to go to the bathroom every night before bed. Routine and early bedtime is going to be necessary. He may fight you on this for a little bit but just gently remind him that you know he would rather go to bed earlier and thirsty than to have night problems. (No matter what, do not shame or compare to peers. This will make matters worse.) I hope this helps.

  • Thomas
    Mar 19, 2018

    Read Sarah Silverman’s book. She was a bed wetter until college, she had a genetically small bladder that finally got bigger. It may help with the mental portion because she talks about how she dealt with it.

  • Christina
    Mar 19, 2018

    I would speak to your doctor. Don’t shame him. I wet the bed well into my teens. Turns out I had chronic bladder infections mixed with an inability to wake during deep sleep. My parents were divorced and each going through their second divorces so they assumed it was purely psychological. All it took was a simple test and a little observation while I slept!

  • anonymous mom
    Mar 19, 2018

    I have a nephew who wet the bed until his mid teens. It was way harder on him than my sister and brother in law. He couldn’t do “normal” kid and teen things like go to or host sleepovers. Even staying at other relatives houses was rough and embarrassing on him. We all treated him with love, kindness, and patience. He’s now in his 20s and is perfectly healthy and doesn’t wet the bed anymore. I would have him checked by a urologist as someone else already suggested but if nothing is discovered just be patient and kind. One thing that is okay to do (in my opinion) is have him launder his own sheets each morning. Just because it’s an embarrassing affliction doesn’t mean that he can’t clean up after himself at this age. Just don’t make it feel like a punishment, instead have him start the wash each morning before school and then change it over after if you can’t get to it yourself. I would tend to think he is about to grow out of this and you will hopefully start seeing improvements soon. Good luck!

  • Shampaigne
    Mar 19, 2018

    Multiple reasons could cause this. A boy I took care of had this issue. He ended up having issues with his urethra. Also heavy sleepers do this too. You want to cut off liquids earlier so that way it reduces it. Also he can wear kid pull ups or depends to help with he mess. I will say they do make some that look like boxers now. Be patient don’t give him a hard time. Kids tend to have a worse time with it if it is an issue. I know from experience. There could be other factors since he is now a teen and puberty plays parts alone with stress and hormones of a teenage drama life that we all don’t miss

  • Lene
    Mar 19, 2018

    You can set an alarm in his room and everyone he hears it he gets up to use the bathroom in the middle of the night or you can set an alarm in his parents room so they can wake up to remind him. If that doesn’t work of suggest keep trying it out for a few days or don’t let him drink any liquids 2-3 hours before his bedtime and have him go pee before he gets in bed so he’s less likely to wet the bed

  • Anonymous
    Mar 19, 2018

    My own experience as someone who wet the bed until 12/13...my mom would make me go pee before bed. Then wake me up around mid night to go again. This was suggested by a doctor. I know, not fun! But it worked...one, it boosted my self confidence that I hadn't peed in my bed(it can be really self deprecating for kids) and two... After a couple of weeks, I started waking up on my own around midnight to go pee. After still more time, my bladder developed and matured and the whole thing stopped. Just remembered ... My doctor also had me do kegel exercises. I think it's a great workout for the muscles down there... Even for boys I believe.

  • Brandy
    Mar 19, 2018

    My brother had the same problem. My father would do dinner at 6pm. And my brother was not allowed anything to drink after dinner. He was told to go potty right before bed. Only tough part is when he woke up in the morning he was horribly thirsty.

  • CJ Mack
    Mar 21, 2018

    I completely understand what you’re going through. My son wet the bed every night and after having him checked out and tested to rule out any physiological causes, we were told over and over that he would grow out of it. The poor kid was tortured by it. He finally just magically stopped wetting about 6 months after turning 15 and hasn’t had a problem since. So, painful as it is, there is hope that your son will most likely just grow out of it.

  • Elsie
    Mar 21, 2018

    There are many people that wet their bed through their teenage years. Look at Michael Landon A Little House on the Prairie I think he was an adult when he stopped. Anyways if you take him to a doctor have it checked out make sure there's there's no underlying problem that he may have you might want to try counseling just a couple sessions 2 get them used to each other and then see if they'll open up but what seems to work for most of us I think back then was to dress them up and have no diapers and let them know we don't have anymore and I can't go get any more and just changing the engine clean them every time. I did notice when I put my son to bed I would wat up a towel between him and his underwear cuz you know we are out of diapers and I think the main thing was is it felt weird or uncomfortable cuz he was used to having the diapers that it kept him a little above that stage of deep sleep to where he could be startled easier awake to say I've got to go. Does that make sense. They get used to the warm diaper and there's nothing that stops them but when you have a towel in there it'll save you washing sheets and to them there's something bigger there that feels odd so they can wake themselves up. My son didn't care if you went to bed or not wet, never wet the bed again after that.

  • john
    Jul 15

    No teenager wants to be wearing diapers to bed. I didnt either and was happy I was allowed to stop wearing them when I entered high school. Unintended consequences of course now dictated flooded sheets, blankets, pillows in the middle of the night. Getting up groggy and trying to deal with the mess and going back to sleep. I would often let the sheets dry out during the day and soak them again the next night. I couldnt even think of having a friend in my room as it now had that telltale bedwetters smell. I put myself back in diapers after about a year of dealing with the mess. I discovered that diapers really did a great job of containing the problem and it was much easier to drop a wet diaper in the wash every morning. I really dont know how to convince a teen guy to go this route but I can gurantee he'll sleep better and have a better overall outlook on things. I just treat it now as a necessary tool I need at night. I was diagnosed with a neurogenic bladder, probably since birth, that makes it impossible to control my bedwetting. The Dr. suggested surgery which "might" help. My track record with surgeries is pretty bad so Im not anxious to go under the knife for a maybe fix. I just chooses to live with it. Too bad the stigma about diapers is what it is because the reality of dealing with bedwetting any other way is far worse.