Having a Second Kid?
Hello! While not here to completely decide my future, I do want to get some thoughts on a matter. I have a 3 yo step-kid with my spouse. That kid is the only kid in our family and the other side... as in my spouse and their ex-wife only had the one kid, the ex-wife hasn’t had another kid, and we haven’t had another kid. So it’s just the one. But both sides of the family are now talking about having another kid. Is it fair to the first kid for me to have a kid? I’m worried because I don’t want her to feel replaced or like I would love the other kid more because I’d be their “mom” (my step-kid just calls me “Kiki” or “step-mom”). I’m also worried because the 3 yo is only with us half the time while another kid would be with us all the time, perhaps making the first kid feel less loved. Anyone in this situation? Thoughts, feelings, experiences? Anything helps!