Posted in Child Care, Working Parents

Heading back to work.

So my baby girl was born August 22, and my work is already asking me to come back in on October 10th. I feel as though this is too soon. She isn’t even two months old yet. When did everyone else go back to work and if you did go back this early where did you find daycare that would take an infant?? I’m just scared that she is just too little. Should I talk to my work and see if there is something I can do to go longer? Or should I quit for now and start looking for another job say maybe in November? I don’t really care much for this job but it pays the bills. Any advice or your own stories would really help. Thank you!

  • JJ
    Oct 01

    Do you qualify for FMLA? Can your partner cover you staying at home full time? I only had a month after each child. Last time around, TWO WEEKS post partum my boss showed up at MY HOUSE because I wasn’t answering their calls or emails. I was appalled.

  • Chelsa
    Oct 01

    I took 12 weeks with both kids, using FMLA: 6 weeks of short term disability and the rest are pretty much unpaid unless I had PTO. Other companies some of my friends with for get more, or less. I'm not sure what you do for work, but can you do some from home, or work a flex schedule until you go back? If not, and you know you don't want to be there, and don't have to be, turn in your notice (if you're using FMLA, you need to go back for at least 30 days to prevent having to pay back paid time while you're gone). They're only little for a little while.

  • Ashley
    Oct 01

    I had 12 wks leave as well and felt the same as you that it wasn't long enough. Circumstances of my return to work weren't right and I quit my job, just now feeling around for a new one.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 02

    Sure definitely ask for longer. If they say yes, you get longer and if they say no it sounds like you are open to leaving and looking for another job anyways when the time is right for you. One suggestion is to start searching for daycare now and putting your name on waiting lists. I'm sorry that this happened :(

  • Sarah
    Oct 05

    Did you fill out the paperwork for FMLA? That gives 12 weeks unpaid. With my first I took the 12 weeks, with my second, my current job offers 13 weeks. I couldn't imagine going back any sooner, but most daycares around here won't take them before 12 weeks anyway