Posted in Behavior, Blended Families, Grade Schoolers

Help!!!

My 7 year old stepdaughter has been giving us attitude at home and is now acting up at school, not listening to her teachers and flat out telling them no. We talked to her about it but it's not helping! Any advice?

  • Anonymous
    Feb 05

    When you talked to her did you ask about her feelings and why she is doing these things?

  • Scarlett
    Feb 05

    Yes and all she ever says is I don't know.

  • Anonymous
    Feb 05

    Try walking her through her feelings. Do you see a correlation in what causes her behavior? Pay attention to that stuff. When she does, don't take I don't know for an answer. She's young and is learning to manage her emotions.

  • Scarlett
    Feb 05

    I think it all stems from her absentee mom but that still doesn't excuse the behavior. They haven't seen her in over a year and I think it k its finally taking its toll

  • Olivia
    Feb 05

    That's a hard thing to deal with. Have you tried therapy? Or creating a stronger family bond with movie nights or something similar? How close was she to her mom

  • Scarlett
    Feb 05

    No and honestly between her not being potty trained when she moved in with us and trying to deal with her still having accidents and her brother being autistic it's been the last thing on our minds.

  • Scarlett
    Feb 05

    She's more of a daddy's girl but of course she still loves her mom a lot too. I've bonded great with her brother but me and her butt heads

  • Elizabeth
    Feb 10

    I feel like even the good relationship my step kids have with their mom and the good relationship we have with her doesn’t take away from them having behavioral issues like that. I tend to teach them that it’s safest to act that way at home with us and the people that love them rather than in public with strangers. I always get back to the core of it by reminding them that we love them and want them,over and over. cause it can be pretty hard not being with their mom and being with the stepmom. Hope it works out!

  • Scarlett
    Feb 10

    I walked her to class and talked to the teacher. She has been not doing her work and standing in her chair during class which made the other kids laugh which in turn made her want to do it more. I had her apologize to the teacher and we had a much better end of the week!