Anonymous

Honestly, I’ve been feeling like crap

Is it possible to have postpartum depression over a year later? I just got a new job that is physically demanding and I haven't been sleeping well and thought maybe that was it but now I'm crying all of the time and just feel like a piece of crap and a terrible mother and wife. Sometimes I regret having my child and just look at her in annoyance and then I regret thinking that. I don't think I'm preggo again but I was going to test anyway just to be safe. I feel like my life and house is a mess and just want to feel normal again. Please help.

  • Ali
    Oct 02

    I am not sure this is postpartum but I struggled with similar feelings after my first child. It was a very hard adjustment for me, maybe because I was an older mom? You should definitely talk to someone, join facebook groups for support, or whatever you can do to feel a little better. I really did not get over this until having my 2nd child. It was much easier for me. Hugs to you, it is very lonely and hard. I look back now and am sad I missed out on the joy of motherhood at this early stage but the joy will find you eventually.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    I don’t know about postpartum depression but I think wether people want to admit it or not, we all go through depression and even if we don’t want to call it that, we can call it a “funk”. Sounds like a funk. Lots of life changes and stress and new routines can do that to someone! I think you’re being too hard on yourself :) you will adjust your life and routine and it will all fall together, just try to take it day by day and do what you can. Make sure you’re still taking some me time like taking a long shower or walking to the coffee shop ALONE on Saturday morning. Also- hire a cleaning lady for one deep clean.... a deep clean can change your whole life 😂 my mom says a clean house is a clean mind. If you can’t afford it, that’s the type of stuff that’s worth adding to the CC bill imo😉 ALSO final thoughts- I think my two year old is annoying all the time lol

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    Also also also- have you talked to your husband? I don’t know your husband, but mine is pretty clueless. Even just speaking out loud how you feel (especially if you’re feeling like a crappy wife) and having him shake his head no and say you’re doing just fine can really help more than you think! I’d try to sit down and have a talk/cry with him, I think that will help.

  • LilLaeLou
    Oct 03

    I’ve been there! I agree with all the answers. I have a five and three-year-old and I still have those feelings sometimes! 😩😬 Plus, it’s really hard being a working mom.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 04

    While you can call it a "funk" there is a huge difference between a temporary period of feeling sadness, dread, frustration, vs. depression. Depression requires medical attention. If you think you could be depressed you need to seek help. I would not let the encouraging comments on this discount the possibility that you could be depressed. The only way for you to know for sure is to be evaluated.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 04

    I don’t know if it was depression or a funk or what but I was like this with my twins ... probably up until pretty recently and they are 3. Not that I was completely depressed, but also just not myself. I think parenthood is just such a big adjustment and us Mommas have SO much on our plates. I think everyone’s suggestions are great!! Maybe it would help to somehow take something off your plate - hire a cleaner, cut down on work hours, let your husband take over some household duties. I realized that I need just like an hour a day to myself and I feel a TON better.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 10

    I second the other opinion above! If you suspect that you might have depression you should speak with a professional. There is absolutely no shame in that as it is like any other medical shift in your body that requires attention. There are "peak" times that postpartum depression is screened for, but that does not mean it couldn't occur later down the line. If you had symptoms of any another condition, you would get yourself to a doctor and this is no different! No matter what you are so not alone and your children and husband are lucky to have you. Best of luck.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 10

    I thought I was just in a "funk" and tried from full time job. I finally went to my PCP and he diagnosed me with PPD when my daughter was 8 months old. I just kept thinking it would pass, and it didn't. I also have anxiety, even before a kid! So it really took a toll. I was put on Zoloft (helped so much!, only 25mg, and I'm now off of it. My daughter just turned 2. It helped balance me and not be a nervous wreck. So far so good coming off the medicine, as I think I have it under control now. But if those feels come back, then back on the meds. I'm happier and able to enjoy being a mommy.

  • Marie
    Oct 10

    Postpartum is anytime after having a child. Even if its years after, your body is still trying to recover from having a baby, physically and hormonally just to name a few. There is absolutely no shame in speaking up and standing up for yourself, your peace of mind and your mental health. I would definitely talk to your pcp dr or obgyn just so that someone in the medical field is aware of how you're feeling. Dont be afraid to get better for what people or you might say if you went and got help. You are brave, you are strong and you can do it my dear! We are all here for you but for your own sake and your family's you shouldn't just let the comments on here hold you back from talking to a dr that can help you. You cant take care of your family without taking care of yourself. And your peace of mind and enjoyment of life is included in that. I wish you the best in life and will be praying that you find a solution. ❤