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How do I tell my Sister in law her son is to rough?

My nephewis 2 yrs but has the body of a 4 yr. My twins are 11months and barely picking up how to walk. When I watch him he’s always pushing them over and taking their toys from their hand and won’t let them play with anything. I can’t really spank him because he’s not my kid. And when I tell him no and be nice he just get worse. Plus he doesn’t talk so I can’t tell what he’s wants or anything. How do I bring up that she need to teach him to play nice?

  • Anonymous
    Sep 28, 2018

    You definitely cannot discipline him, but you can go over and try to give him strategies. Like telling him taking toys isn’t nice and if he wants something to ask first, and offer them something else. Maybe one day when the kids aren’t there you can bring it up to your sister and ask how she’d like you to handle it when you see him being too rough

  • Amanda
    Sep 28, 2018

    Is she there when this behavior is happening? If so, any person should definitely be able to see that it’s not ok. Talk with her about it. No beating around the bush. And if she refuses to see what’s happening and remedy the situation then I wouldn’t allow them to play together anymore.

  • Savannah
    Sep 28, 2018

    Talk to her about, yes it’s a little embarrassing when your kid is the rough one, I have been the one told this and also have had to be the one to tell someone else. It’s weird and awkward but is what’s best for the child. I would rather know so I can correct the behavior then let it go on without the child learning proper behaviors.

  • Kieli
    Sep 28, 2018

    I agree with Amanda, if she is there and can see how her son is acting towards the babies, then they don’t need to play until your babies are bigger. And Savannah is right too, it is a little embarrassing to have a rough child but she needs to know what one little accident and a baby can get hurt. My daughter has been a little on the rougher side on the playground but I was there to defuse the situation and tell her that’s not how we act.

  • Candace
    Sep 29, 2018

    I second what rose said