How do you spend YOUR Mother’s Day?

Hi Mamas! Looking for some advice on how you spend your Mother’s Day. The last two years (my first and second mothers days) I incorporated my MIL. Only to find out that she basically forgot about me 😭😭 Do you - 1. Let your husband and kids decide 2. Spend the day to yourself 3. Spend the day with family 4. A blend of 2 and 3. Thank you!

  • Anne
    Apr 24

    Thankfully my mom and MIL live far away so I don't have to share the day with anyone. 😂 I'm in bucket #4... I prefer to have a mix of both "me time" and family time. Usually we keep it pretty simple — I sleep in, the kids bring me breakfast in bed with flowers and cute cards, etc. What's important to me is that my husband takes care of the kids 100%, and that I don't have to cook or clean. Whatever else we do is just a nice bonus :)

  • Christa
    Apr 24

    Last year was my first Mother’s Day, and I spent it with my entire family of in-laws, mother in law (who passed away in August) and my 11 brothers and sisters (all in laws) and then my hubby had to go to work that night. I think this year, I’m just going to let hubby and my son plan it this year! We are pregnant with baby 2 this year, so I guess I’ll see what they come up with!!!!

  • Sara
    Apr 24

    I have spent mother's day the past few years with just my immediate family (so not my mom or mother in law). A couple times we've done something with my MIL the day or night before since she lives in the area. Usually I'm in bucket #4 where I do something for myself (maybe get a massage or go for a run) but spend most of the day with the family.

  • Kendall
    Apr 24

    We live about 2,500 miles away from my in-laws (🙌🏼) but we went to the aquarium as a family then out to dinner last year. my husband gave me a choice of a family day or a day off, I chose family day and that’s what he planned for us!

  • Julie
    Apr 25

    Last year (my first Mother’s Day), my MIL invited herself over for 4 nights (😱😨🙄😲) over mother’s day weekend, claiming she “didn’t realize” it was MD (please). This year she tried to do it again and I just said, “we are spending the weekend as a family together. Going to the zoo. The weekend before or after will be when we celebrate our moms.” She’s still pouting (I can feel the angry dagger eyes from several states away), but I anticipate she’ll get over it in time to accept her Mother’s Day gift. As for cooking/cleaning/etc....yeah that work pretty much never ends. But now that my daughter is older it’s nice for us all to go do something fun together!!

  • Triny
    Apr 25

    Well mothers day is a really sad day to my husband, he lost his mom when he was 7 yrs/o so our little tradition is to hit the road, have some breakfast and then go to the cemetery 😞 which is on the other side of town. Then we just head back home and dont do much left. My mom is mexico, so i dont always see her on mothers day. He always gets me a present but we dont really get to do much that day. 😬

  • Yanis
    Apr 25

    This is only my second mother’s day, but Last year I let my husband decide. I think this year I might ask for a little me time.

  • Yanis
    Apr 25

    Triny, my husband also lost his mother so this day is sad for him as well. I really appreciate that he tries to make the day special for me and our daughter.

  • Jennie
    Apr 25

    When we lived in the same state as our moms, we tried to plan things during that week/weekend with them and then set aside a special time for my kids to celebrate their mom. (My inlaws tend to forget I'm a mom too lol) Now we live in a different state, my husband and kids plan a nice day for me. I like to spend it with them but sometimes he sends me to the salon or massage for a couple hours.

  • Cathy
    Apr 25

    Thanks everyone! The last two mothers days I offered to spend it with our MIL. Both times she forgot that I’m a mother too and I’m over it. It’s also my day too. I think this year it will be a blend of just our little family and a little me time. On another note - for those of you that are missing mothers on a daily basis, I’m thinking of you.

  • Jenn
    Apr 25

    I'm a SAHM. I spend it by myself happily :). It's a good excuse to relax (I'm terrible at relaxing).

  • Melissa
    Apr 25

    I think for me it’s been a blend of 2 and 3, but I’d love if I got to spend it myself or even a weekend away.

  • Julie
    Apr 25

    @Cathy, your mil sounds like a lot of fun (🤦‍♀️🤮). It sucks that she didn’t even acknowledge you on Mother’s Day, how horrible. My mil did the ultra fake, “oh my goodness!! It’s Mother’s Day weekend!? I did t even realize!” And then on Sunday morning she produced her “gift” to me which was the fruit bowl that’s been sitting in her kitchen of her home since I met her (over 10 years ago) and tells me, “here. This is special to me so I wanted you to have it now for Mother’s Day!” I thought I was being nice by not pointing out how she’d obviously lied by grabbing a dirty fruit bowl for me as a MD gift as she left her house to come visit and tried to pretend she didn’t realize it was Mother’s Day, so instead I said, “oh thanks. Why is it special to you?” It was a real question, not meant to be a zinger. To which she replied huffily, “well if you don’t like it just give it back!” At that point my husband finally spoke up and said, “no ma. She is just asking why it’s special to you.” My mil didn’t have an answer and she finally said, “well once before she died my mom ate a banana out of it.” Oookkkkkay.....so I replied, “in that case, please take it back. I don’t want you to lose sight of a cherished memory like that.” And guess what!? She took it back. I have no words. Blah, rant over.

  • Laura
    Apr 25

    I like how so many of these comments are MIL rants. My complaint is kind of the opposite in that my MIL is way more into holidays in general than I am and will send me cards for Mother's Day, Valentine's Day, our anniversary, etc. It just seems like she's trying to insert herself into days that are more about me and my husband/daughter, not me and my MIL. And as for how I spend Mother's Day, so far it's been a regular day with my husband going out of his way to thank me for all that I do for our family and maybe he does some extra chores (and I don't feel any need to celebrate more than that)

  • T
    Apr 25

    I like spending the day with those that made me a mom. They usually cook & do their own thing for me. If we go out it’s NOT on actual Mother’s Day. Or we’ll order delivery. I personally like to do what my kids like, even though I know it’s “my day”.

  • Suzie
    Apr 26

    My first child was born the weekend before Mother’s Day so my first year fresh home from the hospital all our family came over (and it was exhausting) second year we had an immediate family day and after that I take only me days (sahm needs break and time for my kids to miss me) I think this year I’ll get the other aunts with kids in the family for a group get together

  • Anonymous
    Apr 30

    I am open to whatever for Mother’s Day- as long as it feels “special”- just depends on the year and I would discuss with my husband. But my real Mother’s Day treat is closer to Father’s Day, when my husband takes our son (starting at 1.25 years old!) on a traditional father-son camping trip with other dads. They get super dirty and have fun with no moms bugging them. I get one or two nights to myself and prepare a nice Father’s Day dinner for his return. :)

  • K
    May 03

    I have my mother over for brunch to be with me and the kids. For me it’s still about celebrating her. The rest of the day is usually just a normal Sunday. This year though, I told my husband to get me something I really want. I’ve never requested any gift from him in the 15 years Dating/married that we’ve been together, he is actually a very good gift giver, but it felt good to say exactly what I want. And I may even sneak out fir a pedicure while our girls nap😁. As for my MIL, she doesn’t celebrate much of anything, so I have my husband handle that.