How do you stop your child from repeating requests over and over?

  • Lisa
    Dec 04, 2018

    My son is autistic and it gets super frustrating and annoying, I get you. I have not found a way to stop it.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 04, 2018

    Maybe try and be one step ahead? Have a basket of snacks in the lower cupboard and when he asks can I have a snack you can just say yep go grab 2 snacks. And boom no more asking a million times waiting for you to get the snack. If he’s always asking “can we go outside and play” maybe make it a part of your routine and explain in the beginning of the day after lunch we’re going to the park today! So he doesn’t need to ask and beg all day long until you take him. If he’s asking for a drink maybe just keep a sippy cup on the coffee table ready to go, keep filling it as needed but it’s there and he won’t need to ask and wait on you.

  • IV
    Dec 04, 2018

    get down at their eye level and touch their arm or back, and calmly give your response and explain your answer.

  • Andrea
    Dec 04, 2018

    When I get repeat requests like this, I’ll say something like “Have you asked me this question already? Do you remember what I said last time? Well my answer isn’t going to change no matter how many times you ask.” If its a question about something that is being repeated, and not necessarily a request, I’ll default to asking him if he can think about what the answer might be first. Example “Mommy, where are we going?” “Hey buddy, why don’t you think about it for a minute and see if you can remember what we talked about.” 8 times out of 10, he knows the answer and can tell me, to which I respond with something like “see that! I knew you could remember!”

  • Anonymous
    Dec 04, 2018

    I don’t know here’s a wild idea.... try giving them a snack But in all seriousness kids like repetition and routine. So having a couple set times for snack is helpful. My kids know right after school and and right before bed they can have a snack.

  • Sharyn
    Dec 04, 2018

    Hi all... my granddaughter’s (I am raising her) requests are for anything not just snacks, can I play can I use the computer etc ..

  • Jenn
    Dec 10, 2018

    I read a “remedy” once but havent tried it myself yet. They ask something & you give a firm answer. The next time they repeat the same question you simply reply with, “Asked and answered.” Nothing else. After a few “asked & answered” replies they get the idea that the answer isn’t going to change. In theory anyway. :)

  • Anonymous
    Dec 29, 2018

    Truth be told there isn’t a good solution. First time I’m like sure here a snack you come back 5 minutes later asking again I’m going to tell you to go find something to do.

  • Kate
    Mar 24

    I have had issues with this myself. It gets so frustrating! Sometimes I struggle because I try the ‘ignore’ method but that just usually ends up just about pushing me over the edge by the millionth ask! So that’s not effective I wouldn’t say. Lately I have been trying something similar to Andrea. Like after the second ask I’ll explain to him if his question is one that I’ve already answered my answer will not change. The challenging part is sticking to my guns!! 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

  • Lisa
    Apr 01

    In the last month I finally stopped the million repeating questions!!! I simply turn the question around on my son, for example: where is Kristi(his sister)? I answer napping, the second time he asks I say where did I tell you she is? He answers napping then moves on to playing with something else. It has moved us past the billion askings for the same question. Hope this helps with others