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How much do you typically spend on a 1 year old bday party? Is it better at home or rent a place?

  • Brittany
    Sep 14, 2018

    As a mother with the opposite problem, I ask myself how much is too little? I have to buy or make a cake, 4 to 6 gifts of modest price, drinks , snacks, wrapping paper, bows and streamers. I think I can do it for under $100.

  • Mary
    Sep 14, 2018

    We consider ourselves pretty frugal among our circle but try to go with the flow in our own way. We try to cap it around $500 on place and food. It's how much we can afford in our budget for a family of five. Sometimes we go a lot under and keep it really simple and sometimes just about. Whether my kids remember it or not, they still experience it and have fun in the moment though. It still shapes their views/senses. It's for both my kids and the people who care to celebrate their milestones with us.

  • Gloria
    Sep 14, 2018

    It depends how much you are willing to spend. For my daughters 1st birthday party I only spent $400. The reason why I only spend that is because a party is usually for adults because baby is too small to understand. It was enough for food and beverages.

  • Tina
    Sep 14, 2018

    I don't think it matters what you spend (low or high), as long as the kids (and everyone else) have fun and enjoy being together. Who cares if they'll remember it or not. I don't remember most of my own birthdays even as an adult. For my family and our culture, a first birthday is a special occasion full of family and friends. If I have to spend a little more for my daughter's upcoming 1st birthday, then I'm happy to (and by more, it means we're actually ordering the food and dessert instead of making it ourselves, because, hell, who has the time?) And yes, I agree with the comments that the party (especially a 1st birthday party) is for the adults. My husband and I actually kept a child alive and thriving for 1 entire year (a year full of sleeplessness and diaper explosions and tears mixed in with the joy), when we both came into it with absolutely no prior knowledge. I think that's definitely something to celebrate.

  • Mimi
    Sep 14, 2018

    Of course a first bday is for the parents! Lol you survived your first year woohoo, that deserves a celebration! Baby won't remember... But seriously It really depends on your situation. You can spend whatever you want (and can afford), who cares what other people think? We have a HUGE family and they all live close. So renting a place big enough to fit everyone and providing food is already costly for us, but thankfully it's certainly within our means, otherwise I would do something small with just the grandparents. But in our culture and family, as other people posted, there's really no such thing as a small birthday, especially a 1st bday... So you do whatever you like! Have a small celebration or a big one, as long as you and your kid are happy!

  • Monica
    Sep 14, 2018

    Whatever you're ok with spending

  • Gina
    Sep 14, 2018

    I probably spent around $1000 but half of that cost for renting out our apartment complex lounge. We wanted to throw a party mainly for those folks who didn't get to see her much during her first year because we weren't bringing her around so that was their chance to celebrate with her. The other half of the cost went to food, gifts and decorations for the party. Her 2nd birthday party was much more calm - in our small apartment with just immediate family members only.

  • Erin
    Sep 14, 2018

    We didn’t spend much. I bought some plates and streamers and balloons. Made a really cute focal point cake. For dinner we had a lot of family and friends we did a hamburger and hotdogs bbq. My husband and I bought the meat we divided everything else up among our guests. For example one family friend brought buns someone else brought tomatoes and onion a few people brought fruit. Everyone spent less than they would have had to spend on a meal for the family. My baby already has so much stuff so I made it clear that the side they brought was enough of a gift. I just wanted to have a day with people I love celebrating the baby I love. I think I spent 60 dollars.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 14, 2018

    I cannot recall exactly but it was probably around $750. My daughter's birthday parties are absolutely a time for us as parents to enjoy ourselves as well. So we invite all our friends who have kids my daughter's age (they're friends too), plus her classmates and their parents. I hire talent to keep the kids busy and happy, and someone to help me with the serving and clean up (like my house keeper), or this past year we hired a Mexican Food Cart (huge hit!) to cater all the food. This last party I also hired two lifeguards because we were expecting 30+ kids (20 ended up showing) and the kids are now old enough that the parents don't swim with them anymore so I wanted that professional oversight so that there would be minimal risk of injury or worse. This last party exceeded $1K. It's a time when the kids can have fun and the parents can relax. But, hey, we're not giving up retirement savings or missing paying our bills. Throwing parties is something we enjoy doing. We're making memories and, I hope, being good hosts. I've no doubt other parents could throw equally fun parties for a fraction of the cost. I envy their talent...but this works for us.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 15, 2018

    I spent a few thousand and a full week prepping. Of course my kid had the most fun playing with wrapping paper and her cousins lol. Glad that party is done...too much self-induced pressure. I preferred the way we spent the day on her actual birthday (weekday), zoo and a restaurant. The next few years will be more like that.

  • Kye
    Sep 15, 2018

    Idk about a 1 year old, but we had my 5 year olds birthday the other day and spent almost 300$... But we served a lot of stuff to our guests. Pulled pork, ribs, beans, coleslaw, mac amd cheese plus desserts and snacks. Bought a kiddy pool, plus dad and i wore unicorn shirts, a custom dress for her to wear and a new swim suit lol

  • Desiree
    Sep 15, 2018

    Actual parties have averaged about 250. We usually do a park with pretty basic food and drink and dollar tree decorations. Even for my oldest she can decide between a park party and unlimited friends or a handful and a specific destination. It seems to come in about the same cost.

  • THart
    Sep 15, 2018

    I think that really depends on your budget and preferences. A kid really doesn’t need a ton being spent on them for presents, a few versatile gifts is plenty. but if you like having a ton of people over for occasions then the food and drink and such is going to cost more.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 16, 2018

    Different for everyone. I don’t go all out for my kids birthdays. I make their cake and I get them a few free gifts from a game app that I play. Christmas is usually when things get expensive, lol.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 16, 2018

    Confession from a “1%” family — we keep holidays very simple. A plain homemade cake with just candles for decoration. A favorite homemade meal. No big present, no presents at all from mom+dad, but a few small presents from extended family. Christmas is similar. A small present (under $25) under the tree. A few other small presents from extended family. When you are financially secure, expensive things and events aren’t as meaningful as they are to a family with a tighter budget. Instead of receiving gifts at holidays, our family gets what we need when we need it throughout the year.

  • Mel
    Sep 17, 2018

    I had a big first birthday party. At bounce U. I forget how much I spent. I want to say about $500. She just turned 4 so for every other year I made a cake and did something small.

  • Gayle
    Sep 17, 2018

    Do whatever makes you happy. Don't worry about how much you should or shouldn't spend. If your focus is the kid, you need to spend $0 for a one year old. Heck, they're probably happier with no party at all. But... it's also okay to throw a party because YOU want to. I love throwing parties. I love going all out on decorations. I love arts and crafts. I love baking fancy cakes. Do I spend a lot on parties? Yes, probably. I'm a DIY person, so I don't *buy* that much in terms of off the shelf things. Still, the materials start to add up. And certainly I spend a lot of time. I see this as I would any other hobby -- and it's something that my kid (partially) does with me. We generally don't fault people for being into skiing and buying lift tickets frequently. Why do we criticize people so much for spending money on their kid's parties? You do you. ;-)

  • Stay-At-Home Dan
    Sep 19, 2018

    We spent 30 bucks on cupcakes and McCallisters’ (for my wife and I). Dressed her up and we let her stuff her face with a cup cake. Baby girl doesn’t know about birthdays yet. Save money while we can. 😂 Do what fits your budget and your family!

  • Megan
    Sep 21, 2018

    We had a back yard BBQ for us and about 12 of our close friends. Got some balloons and a cake and everyone contributed drinks instead of gifts. So really, ribs for 12 people was our biggest expense. We’ve decided to forgo the huge bashes mainly because we enjoy parties where you actually get to spend time with the person you’re there to see. In the future we plan to keep it small but special.

  • Jessica
    Oct 12, 2018

    I’d love to laugh at those spending an incredible amount of money on their kid’s 1st birthday parties but in all honesty if I could afford a party with a planner etc, I totally would go all out! I’m a stay at home Mom and we just can’t justify that much money, on a single income family. $1500 is pretty much our mortgage! 😂 My sons bday was filled with Pinterest crafts, which turned out no one really paid attention to anyways, a $50 smash cake (which was a HUGE waste of money because Albertsons sells beautiful ones for $8!) And we made chicken teriyaki kabobs and a few appetizers. We had wine and beer for the adults, and a bucket of juice and water for the kiddos. Growing up I always enjoyed the bday parties that my parents put HEART into. -A sleep over where we all dressed up and my parents made a fancy dinner for all of us -my stepdad was a limo driver so when he got home from work he took all my girlfriends out for a ride -my mom would get a bunch of face masks and nail polish and we would have a “spa” party Being creative with whatever you can afford makes all the difference!