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How to address grandparents oversharing their grandchildren on social media?

Anonymous

This is all about my own MOM. Yes, of all people that could get into my nerve about oversharing on social media, it’s my own mother. She’s a 1st time grandmom who loves facebook! I’ve talked to her on so many occasions about this topic but I’m getting to a point now that I feel like I don’t want to send her his own grandson’s pictures or limit it or maybe snail mail her printed pictures because she’s not too techie. So I guess printed pictures aren’t easy to share on FB as those you send by phone. I’m not anti Social Media, I just don’t feel comfortable when people share my child’s pictures on their page, to their social media friends that I barely knew, on a regular basis, like almost daily. I even told her, think of sharing a picture a day, you have shared 365 pictures of my child in a year before he can even have the capacity to decide that he likes his face stored in the world wide web?! I post my own child’s pictures on social media at most is once a week or not more than twice a month for the same thoughts. Any advice please? Thanks!

  • Kieli
    Feb 19

    Does she have a smartphone? I don’t use Facebook or Instagram or anything ... so to share my daughters pictures with just family I have an app called Lifecake. If she can’t figure out how to screenshot, then that would be a good way to still share photos of your LO and not have to worry about her reposting

  • Anonymous
    Feb 19

    I think if you are posting, you don’t have a good argument here. If you decided no photos of him at all, you could say that and everyone stops. But...once you’re putting a few up quantity doesn’t matter. I mean, it is your kid and you can talk to her about doing one a week, but what would that do?

  • Anonymous
    Feb 20

    Quantity really doesn't matter. It's pretty inevitable in this day and age that your son will wind up on social media someday. Baby pictures shouldn't be some big issue. I suck at posting and keeping people updated. My mom is an author and loves it, but I don't feel comfortable with her sharing photos of my child to thousands of people. My mom made a Facebook group consisting of friends and family. She shares pictures and videos there which works much better than plastering the photos everywhere. She has a couple photos on her regular profile, but not many. I think the big issue is content of the photo. I made it clear that if a picture or video goes up, my daughter has to be clothed in it. Not because I think there is anything wrong with nudity but because the thought of some predator looking at photos of my daughter makes my gut wrench.

  • Brianne
    Feb 20

    We made a rule with our family that if you didn’t take it you can’t post it. It sounds like she may not listen, but that’s a pretty straight forward rule that has worked well for us.

  • Kelly
    Feb 20

    My husband and I have a "no sharing on social media" rule with all of our relatives. I highly recommend it because then everyone is on the same page and knows that it's not their place to post about your child. My husband and I decided that if our relatives went against our wishes, we would no longer give them pics of the kids until they took them down. So far we have had no problem. Our families respect and understand that we do not know all of their Facebook friends, and that we ourselves share VERY little about our kids with our own contacts. Online privacy is important to us and we made this clear to our relatives. You're the parent, you have every right to let your mom know that this is important to you and that rules have to be respected.

  • Anonymous
    Feb 21

    Facebook oversharing of baby photos and ultrasounds led to a blacklash and the rise of private sharing apps like Snapchat. Now there's tons of baby album apps designed to share with and only with who you want. I highly recommend that route. I just searched for "baby photo album" in the App Store or Google Play and picked one. Some even give you the option of putting your photos into a personalized book or DVD.