How to handle crying fits?
So like most toddlers my toddler cries when she doesn’t get her way on occasion. The cries turn into full on painful to the ears type of cries simply because she didn’t get to do something in that instance or didn’t get ice cream etc. I’d taken the time to validate her feelings and try to calm her down that way but after a while this tactic just didn’t work anymore. I admittedly lost my cool after a few of these incidents and would tell her to stop crying. What I’ve noticed now is that when I ask her to stop crying it causes her to try to stop crying in that moment causing her to gulp and try to hold her breath to stop crying. I literally have to tell her to let it out and just cry because it almost seems like she’s gasping for air. I fear that I’ve now created an environment where it’s not ok to cry. I feel awful about this as this was never my intention. Now I’m seeking advice on how to better this situation. I don’t want to deal with the epic crying battles but I also don’t want her to think that crying will help her in getting her way. She’s a normal toddler, she’s not overly dramatic or diagnosed with anything. It’s failure on my part on handling the situations better. She’s my first and I’m still getting the hang of this parenting thing so I welcome advice on different ways of handling and bettering the situations. TIA