How to help autistic gender exploring tween?
So 8 months ago my 10 year old high functioning Aspergers kid, female by birth, confessed to me that they hate being a girl, dread puberty and want medical intervention to prevent it, and identify as neither male nor female. I am having a hard time understanding them, respecting their non binary wish to be called they and child. They cut their hair boy short, dress like a boy and have expressed feeling a lot more male than female though still claim to be a neutral gender. They want to change their name to a gender neutral one and demand that we use the singular form of “they” when referring to them. They also have expressed wanting puberty blockers, to bind their breasts, and to eventually get chest surgery and take testosterone. I worry about their future being autistic and transgender. Could they be more marginalized? And how the hell do I support my child through this? We are doing our best to get to speed and are fully accepting of their gender divergency, as well as neurological differences, and they feel very accepted and valued, but I still worry constantly. What can I do to support them more and come to terms with having a kid who is two types of “different?”