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How to organize myself ??

Good day all, I am a single mom of two boys 7/11 and I find myself all over the place with my hands into a lot of things but not really getting anything done. I wake up early to take the kids to school, go back home and get ready for work. Then I get out of work to pick them up and go straight home. Sometimes I have to wait a while for a parking. If I have the kids start homework first in the evenings, I’ll be making dinner super late. If I cook first, then the kids give me a hard time to get the homework done. I’d very much like to find time to practice some yoga... but by the time the kids are in bed it’s probably 10 pm and I’m already drained and exhausted! Can anybody share any tips or tricks on how to organize myself in order to make space for all of these activities ?? Ps. I have to sit with the little one to get his homework done because if I’m not watching he’ll just do a very sloppy job.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 26

    Does the school offer any after school programs that offer homework help? meal prepping on Sundays can help eliminate some of the cook time on weekdays. i think the yoga is super important for your mental health, maybe if you have easier chores you can delegate to your older one that could help make time for your yoga.

  • Holly
    Sep 26

    Marie Kondo's The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. I know what you're thinking, "I don't have time to read about organization!" It's more about clear home, clear mind. The Libby app has the audio book for free. You just need to have a library card and sign up.

  • Lexi
    Oct 03

    I second looking into free school programs for homework help. Do you have any older neighbors that would be willing to help out for an hour a day? Make meal prep Sundays a family affair (this also teaches responsibility, independence, and crucial life skills of learning to cook, which most kids enjoy). They might enjoy having a say in what they eat, and will learn to appreciate what you do much more when they realize how much work you put into it every day. Hang in there, momma!

  • C D
    Oct 03

    You are not alone. I, and other moms I know who work outside of home, struggle, as well, so don’t feel bad. In addition to trying to trying to delegate age appropriate chores, I also try to do what I can ahead of time for meals. I try to double recipes so we can eat half now and then freeze the other half for a tough night later on. I also use a crock pot (to cook while we’re at work/school) and instant pot (if you have one) to make meals in short time without a lot of involvement from me. Hopefully this will help.

  • Jennifer
    Oct 03

    Definitely meal prep ahead of time on the weekends so you have your whole week of meal planned out. Or use an instant pot. I typically throw all the food in the instant pot when I get home and put it to cook. Or make easy 15 minute meals like spagetthi or vegtable and beef stir fry. While I'm waiting for instant pot to be done, I have time to help my kids get homework done. I work full time with 5yr old daughter and 8yr old son, so my schedule looks like this: Get off work at 5:30pm, pick up kids at school by 6pm (they are in free after school program at school), then get home close to 7pm, throw food in instant pot which usually takes about 40min to an hour to cook, during that time help kids with homework. Then eat at 8pm. Usually we are done eating by 8:30-8:45pm, chill out until 9:00-9:30pm (sometimes during this time of relaxing I will play Youtube and do some simple dance moves with my 5yr old daughter, she loves the time I spent with her and we get to laugh and exercise a bit. Recently she learned some clapping games at school and wanted me to do it with her. Called "Lemonade"), then I shower kids, then they will be in bed by 9:30pm-10pm. Usually the kids are exhausted so they fall alseep within 10 mins of laying in bed. Then from 9:30-10pm, I get to relax and do anything I want, like watch tv, play games on my phone, listen to music, or if you feel like doing yoga.