How to talk to your 6 year old about moving to a new city.

We're considering a move in the middle of the school year. Looking for advice on how to frame the conversation about moving and starting a new school.

  • JJ
    Sep 04, 2018

    My parents uprooted our little family of three when I was seven in the middle of the school year, and let me tell you, I hated it and I resented my parents for years because of it. I lost my family, my friends, my school, my home, all in one shot. It still pisses me off sometimes. Definitely discuss with them the great things about moving and how you understand it will be hard. As soon as you move, take them to new and exciting places the new town has that your old place didn't. Make sure to help them keep in contact with friends and family from your last home. Try to get them interested in making friends and companions right away, or joining groups or activities so they acclimate as soon as possible.

  • Zobeida
    Sep 04, 2018

    We moved in the middle of the school year when I was in second grade. I actually liked where we moved to better so I adjusted pretty quickly. On the other hand, we did it again 4 years later when I was in sixth grade, it didn’t go so well. I think it really depends on where you’re moving from and where you’re moving to and how well your child is settled into where they are and how well they adjust to changes. I would say if possible, moving in the middle of the school year not ideal, so I would try to push it out if I were in that position. I’m a recruiter and I’ve seen parents get creative with maybe one parent going first and the other waiting out the school year and then joining with the rest the family. It’s hard enough to be the new kid but it’s even harder when you’re doing it in the middle of the year. If you can’t wait until the new year, then I would suggest at least trying to do it after a break. Regardless, encourage them to stay in touch with her old friends. It’ll help during the transition. And also if possible take him/her to see where they will be going to school in advance to start getting used to the idea before their first day. I’ve also noticed recently on Nextdoor and in Facebook groups where moms will put it out there if they are moving to a new area or have just moved that they are looking to network and help the kids start making friends before they start at school.

  • Household6
    Sep 30, 2018

    Coming from the POV of a military family: 1. It’s all about how you present it. “How would you feel about moving to a different city?” leaves the door open for resentment if they say they don’t want to move and you do anyway. It will go over much better if you present as “We have exciting news! We are moving! It’s a great town I’ve heard SO many great things about!” The best part is we get to make more friends!”