How would you feel?

My parents just moved across country to live near us. ( Kentucky to Houston). We honestly thought we would be in houston forever and we encouraged the move. Well... due to my husbands company buying another company, we are being relocated 3 hours away. My heart is broken for my parents and I just don’t want to move. ( my parents built a house here so they are here for a while) how would you handle the guilt I have? And how often do you see family that’s 3 hours away?

  • Anonymous
    Jan 03

    I live across the country from my parents. So I think if I lived 3 hours away I would see them every long weekend and of course every holiday! My sister lives 2 hours away and we meet half way every few weeks for dinner.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 03

    We live 4-5 hrs away from my family (we have to drive through LA and San Diego traffic, which sucks) and we make it a point to visit once a month, even if it’s just for a day and a half. We also have a guest bedroom and plenty of space in our home so my family is welcome to visit any time and stay with us for as long as they want. Are your parents retired or working? Maybe talk to your husband and parents about letting them stay over for a week or two at a time when they visit if that’s an option. Not sure what your living situation will be like but make an effort to create a space for your parents when they come to visit to help with that guilt. Or make plans often to meet up half way somewhere on weekends.

  • Michaela
    Jan 03

    Having my parents three hours away would be amazing. I live in Houston and my family is in Maine. I miss them so much and a 3 hour drive would be nothing compared to the 7+ hour (and hundreds of dollars) flight! Just remind yourself of that. I’m sure they’re happy being closer to you and if you feel bad, just make a lot of plans to meet up!

  • Anonymous
    Jan 03

    Try not to guilt trip yourself or over think it . Life happens , and the situation seems out of your control . When I turned 18 i moved out from my moms house and I was so sad n heart broken but she encouraged me and told me to live my life . We live maybe 13 hour drive away from one another I haven’t seen her in over 4 years . ): so 3 hours seems doable !! Just try and get together as much as u can . They are ur parents they should be supportive and encourage u to live your life without guilt .

  • Julie
    Jan 03

    The guilt will be hard for sure. Have you told them yet?? It’ll suck for both sides. But life happens and there are things that are out of our control. My mom lives 5 hours away and I see her at least once a month, usually more. She and my daughter are very close and we all love having her visit. My in laws live less than an hour away and have seen my 16 month old less than 4 times in her life. We’ve told them many times to come, we’ve invited them, etc. they just are very self absorbed and have better things to do. 3 hours is a good distance and as parents age I’d say that any visit should last at least one overnight per hour drive.

  • Whitney
    Jan 03

    Thank you! We have told them, and they are disappointed but understand we have to do what’s best for us. I just feel like I have let them down and they are sad we are leaving them. They have only beeen in Houston 6 months, so they don’t have a support system yet! Thanks for the tips!

  • Lily
    Jan 03

    Don't feel guilty. My in-laws we're not happy when we had to move to Idaho from Texas. But it was what was best for our family. My family lives in California. it is hard being away. But you gotta do what is best for your family.