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Husband communication blah

Anonymous

We both work. We both are tired and stressed. But he never cleans. Except take out the garbage and go do laundry. He cooks and then I clean after. I wash dishes, vacuum, put stuff away, fold the laundry, change our bedsheets, put the dishes away. Those will never get done if I wait for him to do it. I've tried. A whole week went by and it was like he never noticed the mess. And if I point it out, he then gets upset saying he doesnt feel well and hes tired so give him a break. Then he gets angry saying I just complain and why cant I see him tired and sick. Im so tired of this. How do you guys communicate this with your husbands? I dont want our son to grow up learning only mommy cleans.

  • Raji
    Mar 11

    It’s more than just ur son learning that only mommy cleans; it’s about equality and responsibility. It’s not fair; especially since you both work. I would have a discussion where you sit down and divide house jobs equally and switch em periodically. (I would write down what you want to communicate so you don’t forget with examples and stuff to make the discussion easier) if he doesn’t follow through I would just do things for me and leave his, until he wants to do them. He needs to pick up his slack and if it is hurting your marriage or ur views of your marriage; communicate it. For me personally, I’m Sahm, but my husband still does his share and if he isn’t doing something I just tell him; it’s a partnership; but my husband is very open minded and doesn’t limit as what our “roles” are. Whatever takes it to make it work kinda thing.

  • Anonymous
    Mar 13

    Hes been slowly getting better after I showed him how much i clean. Like last night he did the dishes before i got home! Hes been cooking dinner too. ill keep communicating with him though. Thanks for the advice

  • Raji
    Mar 13

    Hope it keeps going and make it easier on all of you. Enjoy 😊