Posted in Marriage & Partnership, Relationships

Husband isn’t the man I want to raise a family with

Anonymous

I just feel so torn, as a person he can be fun and we can have a good time. Around our babies I hate him. He has no patience yells at them constantly for crying takes them away and either put them in the swing or room if they cry out for me too much and I can’t get them just yet instead of calming them down. I’ve tried reason with him and teach him the tricks but he says “you think you’re the better parents? Don’t tell me how to parent etc” I hate seeing my babies treated like that. My infant was crying as I was cooking today, she was hungry and he was playing his game then got upset she was crying and yelled “fucking stop crying dude you’re so annoying” then stop fucking crying, you’re such a crybaby. I told him to feed her the bottle he said okay and kept playing. I needed to study today for a test this morning, he was asleep I asked to get up and take her so I can study he just wouldn’t. I just wanna take my kids and leave but then I won’t know how he’s treating them when I’m not around. I want to leave but at the same time stay till the babies can talk so if he ever mistreats them they can tell me. I don’t know, how do you deal?

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    Take some home videos. Let him see the look on their,faces when he yells at them. He may not see it in the moment, or truly hear himself.

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    I agree take videos... but for proof only if he trys to deny it. you may have to take this to court. Ask for supervised visits. Tell him you are thinking about leaving and see what he says if he doesnt make an effort to change ...GET OUT! Trust me on this, itll only get worse.

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    I have dealt with a similar situation. Ask him to go to counseling, if he refuses tell him that you cant stay with him because he treats your kids like shit

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    He sounds controlling. Coming from someone who grew up with a father very much like that, I would leave. The longer you stay, the longer your kids get the memo that emotions are not okay to have (and therefore potentially turn into him, or worse, as adults).

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    Take videos. The behavior and frustration your describing is concerning. Frustration over a baby crying is typically what causes a parent to shake a baby and give them shaken baby syndrome. I wouldn't trust him with the kids by himself.

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    Do not leave him without videos of proof.

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    On his social media and to his family he seems like a great dad. He doesn’t care if I leave he said I’m not taking his kids and we can split custody. My toddler stops when he does yell and he thinks it works but she’s just startled and scared, when my infant cries he just blows in her face to make her stop. I’m a stay at home mom though. I’ve been trying to find a job but he won’t allow me to put the kids in daycare. He said either I have to watch them or he will and I don’t trust him to watch them especially for hours alone

  • Morgan
    Thursday

    I would leave

  • Amanda
    Thursday

    Omg id get the hell out of that and fast!! I agree about the video though, so you can have proof to show the courts. That way he won’t be allowed unsupervised visitation. But please leave this man! Hell only cause more problems the longer you wait!

  • Anonymous
    Friday

    He acts completely fine the next day and plays with them and is nice. He says his dad’s side has undiagnosed bipolar. People would just say I’m keeping his kids from him or I’m being controlling. I don’t know how I’m gonna get videos though

  • Anonymous
    Friday

    Keep your phone on you. The minute he starts yelling you start recording.