I am a younger mom of a new adult son. We grew very close because his dad passed when he was a toddler. I re married and together we had two sons. Mine being the youngest is setting out to live his own life. We were very involved in sports and family. All throughout their lives in between practices and games I made sure we went to all family gathering, birthdays and holidays, his, mine, ours, theirs... we would go to multiple houses on multiple occasions. We were very busy, but, I thought this was teaching a valuable lesson of how important family is and how pleasing for all the pawpaws to get to see us, even if it was only for a few minutes on holidays.... now, he's making all holidays with his family, including his gf family, but he's forgetting about my family and us as his immediate family, like there is no time for us? Even on regular days there's no time to visit? I am heartbroken over this. Is this on purpose as an act of rebellion against me? Did I somehow teach the wrong lesson? I am broken and becoming bitter....

  • Anne
    Apr 10, 2017

    Honestly, you sound like a hero mom to me. You worked so hard to be the glue for your family over the years and you should be proud of that. Don't take too much of his behavior on yourself. He's new at being an adult and is making some mistakes of his own. Be honest with him about how you feel (disappointed and hurt) but continue to be there for him. It sounds like you did everything you could to give him a supportive family growing up, so I'm sure that he will come around!

  • teenmom
    Apr 10, 2017

    Thank you for the encouragement.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 10, 2017

    He's learning how to be an adult and you're learning how to adjust to an empty nest. Despite what we want to be true, our children never owe us anything. Maybe to you spending time with the whole extended family was amazing while to him it wasn't fun but an obligation, not because he doesn't like you but because it just wasn't fun for him. You had him young. Now is your chance to explore the next stage of your life. It's scary, sure, and exposing. But it's the next phase.

  • teenmom
    Apr 10, 2017

    Thanks for the insight. Just taking it day by day. Now to find a hobby.

  • Anne
    Apr 10, 2017

    I vote for binge watching shows on Netflix 😂

  • Margaret
    Apr 10, 2017

    You sound like you enjoy sports and activities; look to see if your community has adult softball or dodgeball or the like. You get to have fun with other adults! Another option is to look at your local community college and see if they have any classes you might want to take for fun. Learn a language like German and then go to Europe and practice! Go on an adventure and I bet your son will REALLY be glad to see you when you get back!

  • 37piecesOFflair
    Apr 13, 2017

    You are a superhero. But don't be too stressed with this at this point-he's trying to find his own path. Easier said then done I'm sure but don't take it personally-it's that age. Once he settles into his own life, mom will become main support role again. For now, just try to be supportive and keep like bed of communication open in case he needs you. Even when they enter adulthood, they still go through stages!