Posted in Divorce & Separation, Single Parents, Tough Topics

I did it. I separated from my abusive husband.

2 days later I found out I was pregnant. Now I have a high risk pregnancy (16 weeks along) and a 2 year old and I'm a single mom. I feel completely lost. Like a puzzle piece without a puzzle. I have no idea what to do, where to turn, where do I belong. Before this I was a sahm. Now what?? Any advice for me?

  • Ivy
    Sep 20

    First off, thank you for getting out of an abusive relationship. I’m not well versed on resources, but I think a good place to start is looking into the obvious ones like TANF. I looked online and found this, check out Also join the Facebook group called Buy Nothing. People in my local group seem resourceful and helpful. People are generous and probably know more about how you can receive better help in tangible ways

  • Lulu
    Sep 20

    Thank you Ivy

  • Katrina
    Sep 23

    glad to hear you left the abusive situation. no one deserves that. going forward it's your body and your choice what you want to do. you have full power to decided what is best for you & your 2 yo. there is no wrong choice. find support services, where he cannot easily find you. search online for single mothers support groups or support for domestic violence survivors, this may help you find other women in similar situations you can connect with. I've worked with a few non profits that help women in your situation and have seen women make it through and thrive. There are abuse hotlines, and nonprofits in every state that can put you in the right direction. Don't feel ashamed to ask for help right now.