I don’t trust my boyfriend’s family to help with my son when he’s born.
I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend told me that his family will watch and care for our son while I work. I always wanted to have my own money and take care of myself, but I’m ready to throw all of that away to protect my son. I do not trust his family. In short, they’ve shown me time and time again that they are incapable of taking care of themselves, I’ve been around while they were babysitting and they clearly have no idea how to properly care for children. I have voiced my concerns to my boyfriend several times and he gets offended, insisting that his family is perfect. He even wants to live with them and I would rather break up with him and be a single mother. I feel like my concerns are extremely valid, but maybe I am crazy. If you want more details about what specifically concerns me: 1) his mother goes to the ER every three weeks with severe vomiting, one of the babies in the family had to go to the ER too, they found listeria in their blood 2) I refuse to eat in their home or use a plate without rewashing it as all of the dishes still have traces of food on them and they have a serious roach problem, they also dilute their soap/cleaning products with water 3) one day I visited and the gas was left on, the whole house reeked of carbon monoxide and I immediately felt sick upon walking in, I begged my boyfriend to check on his family and he found them sleeping upstairs, including his baby nephew 4) I’ve been over while they were baby sitting a baby that’s only a few months old, at some point the baby started shrieking and of all the years I’ve been watching newborns and babies, I have never heard any scream like that, I had to beg my boyfriend to go make sure everything was okay 5) another time I visited, I found used diapers on my boyfriend’s pillow that his family had left there 6) one of their dogs died from severe dehydration and they still leave the other dog outside without food or water My logic is: I wouldn’t trust his family with my cat, so how could I trust them with son?