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I had a miscarriage in 2016 at 4-months and just had another this weekend at only around 8-weeks. Any other older mamas out there with success stories? We really want to have a second, but concerned that my age (42) has closed the window for us. 😩

  • Vicki
    Feb 05, 2018

    Sending you love, going through the same. It’s really difficult... I decided that I’m going to stop worrying about whether it will happen or not. Because either it will, or it won’t. Nothing I do is going to change the outcome so all I can do is keep trying until we have another healthy baby or I go into menopause or we decide we are good where we’re at. Take care of yourself. 💕

  • Tracee
    Feb 05, 2018

    @Vicki Thank you for the positive reminder. You are right, if it is meant for us it will happen.

  • Tracee
    Feb 05, 2018

    That is is definitely reassuring @christina, thank you!

  • Checker280
    Feb 05, 2018

    My wife and I had a daughter in November. She was 48. It wasn’t without effort or complications. We used donor eggs. We were expecting twins but a life threatening incident to my wife at 7 months left us with just one. Honestly don’t know if this is encouraging news to you or not but good luck in whatever choice you decide. 2.5 months later my only child is doing fine.

  • carrie
    Feb 05, 2018

    I had my 1st at 39 and am currently pregnant with my 2nd one at 41. It took us a while to even get pregnant. I cut out caffeine and alcohol and tried to eat and be healthy. Hang in there ☺

  • Tracee
    Feb 05, 2018

    Yes, @carrie. I did the same, which is why I was feeling pretty confident this time around. We had our first ultrasound Friday only for the doc to say he couldn’t find anything but the empty sack. 😩

  • Anonymous
    Feb 05, 2018

    My sister had 2 miscarriages and later found she had a thyroid problem that was causing it and after medicine and regular check ins with her doctor she was able to conceive and deliver her 2nd child. My best friend had her first child without any complications and then when trying a couple of years later for her 2nd, she had 3 miscarriages and then went to a specialist to find out she had devolved an autoimmune disorder, she then once got pregnant again had to do daily injections in her stomach to make sure her body would not attack the baby, the first 3 months she was at the doctor weekly and doing injections but then went on to deliver baby number 2. I truly believe there is hope and you can have another but I do recommend you have tests done to see what is causing the miscarriages, sometimes they don’t know but other times they do and can help correct it. Good luck!

  • Bekah
    Feb 06, 2018

    My mother was 40 years old when she had me and my sister is currently pregnant with her first due in May. My sister is 38.

  • Checker280
    Feb 06, 2018

    Just wanted to add a comment about injections. There were many complications and a lot of the solutions involved injections. We were both squeamish about the injections, especially a 2” one that had to be injected into a muscle. It was decided that I would do that one and she would handle the smaller ones. In six years of our relationship, this was a lesson in trust and a daily bonding exercise.

  • Tiffany
    Feb 14, 2018

    Had iui it worked and did it in office gynecologist

  • Tori
    Mar 01, 2018

    No advice but I’m sending you love and strength!

  • Laurie
    Apr 11, 2018

    Just saw this post, I know it’s an older one so not sure if you are still interested or not but thought I would comment just in case. After having my daughter at the age of 39 we started trying for our second a couple of years after. Took us a bit to conceive but then we did. And I miscarried. Then I miscarried again and miscarried again. Three miscarriages in a year. Had all the tests done to find out why, but really no answers except that maybe I was too old. (By this time I was 42). So after that last miscarriage we decided to stop and close that chapter and move on bc I couldn’t take the heartache anymore. We planned a big trip to Europe sort of as a consultation . Two weeks after we planned and finalized our trip we found out we were pregnant. I was upset bc I just knew I was going to end up going through another miscarriage. The baby hung on tho and kept hanging on. I actually had a really great mostly problem free pregnancy! My baby girl was born a couple of months before I turned 44. She is perfect and such blessing, I could not imagine life without her. Don’t let them convince you you are too old. Women of all ages all over the world have been having babies for millions of years. Listen to your body, it knows what to do. Good luck!