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I have a 3 month (but 4 weeks early) Baby who doesn’t have very good neck skills yet. I’m a stay-at-home mo, so often I’m moving around doing stuff. And because of this, I have my Baby in the Boppy when I’m busy. I’m terrible at using the Moby wrap and he doesn’t really like the baby harness. What are mothers putting their babies in when they can’t carry them around? My little boy favors turning his head to the right when he lays down and he’s starting to get flat head on that side. Thanks!

  • a
    Apr 10

    Tummy time is important to help this along. You may want to talk to your pediatrician or a pediatric physical therapist about it.

  • JJ
    Apr 10

    Definitely tummy time!!

  • Brigitte
    Apr 10

    I third the tummy time. I read an article that if they are under 6 months 30 min a day of tummy time can correct flat head. So try to do several 5 min increments throughout your day. Also, have you tried a ring sling? I've found it feels more natural and easy to carry my 4 month old in the ring sling and it's quick to take on and off. I can do a side carry with it where she's kind of on my hip so she can see everything I'm doing.

  • Daphne
    Apr 10

    I try to do the tummy time but he hates it and doesn’t move his head once he rolls over. I try to pick up his and make him look forward, but then he’ll just turn back to the left and lays there. Never to the right. Surprisingly, when he’s laying in his back, he always turns to the right, so that is where he flat head is. Mind you, my baby can move his head left and right when he’s sleeping, he just always keeps his head turned to the right. But how does tummy time help? Is it because I can then leave him on his tummy while I do things and he’ll be safe?? And thanks Brigitte, I’ll look into the ring slight!

  • Daphne
    Apr 10

    Oh the other question is, do I keep guiding his head to look straight and to the other side while on his tummy? Even though it’ll drive him insane and start crying? Or do I just let him lay there and figure it out on his own??

  • Brigitte
    Apr 10

    Maybe this article can help? Also, I think you'd prob want to supervise while he's doing tummy time. If he's not liking it and starts crying only do it for a couple minutes. You can also try turning his head to the left once he's asleep if he fell asleep on the right. Also, have you tried using one of those activity mats with the toys hanging down? He might be soon getting to the age where he starts interacting with it more and that might get his head moving more too.

  • Daphne
    Apr 10

    Thanks Bridgette for the article! Yes, we do have an activity mat. Yes, he does somewhat interact with it, but I wouldn’t say much. And then he’ll turn his head back to the right! Part of me is wondering if I’m not doing enough to help him. I put him on his tummy and play with him. Toys won’t make him turn his head. My face down on the floor won’t do either. He lays there and then starts crying when I lift his head up for him, so of course I roll him back to his back. I do this maybe 3-4 times and then give up cause he’s not doing anything and also fussing. Could he just not be ready to use those neck muscles? Or is it really all on me?

  • Brigitte
    Apr 10

    I don't think it's on you at all! You're doing an awesome job momma! Some kids just hate tummy time no matter what. If you've got any concerns talk to your dr and hopefully it'll help put your mind at ease. 😊

  • Lauren
    Apr 10

    I just recently bought a infant positioner from Fisher Price. ( Because my daughter is most comfy in an upright position) she is 11 weeks (7 weeks adjusted) . She also really likes her bouncer.

  • Brittney
    Apr 10

    I would recommend the tummy time and also perhaps trying a woven wrap over the Moby or a ring sling where you position him on the opposite side so it kind of forces him to want to turn his head! I hope this helps.

  • a
    Apr 10

    Tummy time helps because the child has to raise their head against gravity to engage or look around in their environment. Think of it as exercising the neck. Only looking one direction can off set the muscles of the neck and cause a medical condition call torticollis. Tummy time also develops the shoulders and arms to crawl. Mostly likely you are just a hyper vigilant mama and noticing things well before there is anything close to a problem. My LO hated tummy time and it was tough to encourage her to do it. I felt like it was a good day if I got 10 minutes in at any age until she could roll. Once it was her choice she killed it. Yes, it is best to not leave your LO in tummy time alone. He has to work super hard to maintain that position and there are to many variables he just can’t control yet.

  • Daphne
    Apr 11

    Thanks everyone for your help. I have one more question about developmental milestones like tummy time. Is my baby considered 3 months (and therefore needs to work harder or he’ll start lagging), or 2 months cause he was born early (and so I have an extra month to work things out?)?

  • Anonymous
    Apr 11

    Yeah, since he was born early you'd consider him technically 2 months old and reaching 2 month old milestones since that is what age he would be if he had been born on his due date.

  • Sara
    Apr 15

    My boys were also a month early and absolutely hated tummy time and using a Moby with twins....disaster. Instead of getting on the floor with them, I put them on top of me and interacted. So, they were on their tummies and I was their personal floor lol they enjoyed that much more and started attempting to lift their heads on their own. Then I transitioned them to a pile of pillows in a “hill-type” position. Again, not their favorite and it really tested my patience but they liked it more than being flat. As for the busy moments, they were happy in a bouncer with dangly toys in front of them. It won’t help the flat head but at that age, their heads are still relatively soft and you can help ‘shape’ them when you can. My boys still have a small flat spot but it’s not noticeable and I’ve heard from a few specialist that it doesn’t effect their development at all.

  • Naz
    May 02

    My son had torticollis (shortenes neck muscle) when we realised he had to take him to physical theraphy and then he wore helmet to treat the flatness. Helmet part takes months so while he is still young, please take him to the therapist to avoid it. They offer more than tummy time and that is what really works.