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I have an 8 year old daughter. Who doesn’t listen well.

My daughter who is 8 has A.D.D. She is not listening to me when I need her to do something. (Like clean her room, or she can’t sleep in her sisters bed etc...) she sometimes also has outbursts when she doesn’t get her way and tends to do what she wants while being upset. I would like to have some tips and tricks for listening. Also if you have tips and tricks to calm her down. Would be greatly appreciated.

  • Looloo
    Feb 08

    Well from what I read it’s normal for children to not listen during that age. I went through it too. Now that my daughter is 10 she is a lot better at completing tasks. You have to first make sure they know how to do the task. Do it with them . And then also need to discipline. If they don’t want to do the chore take away their favorite thing and don’t feel bad and next time she will know you aren’t playing games. She has a tantrum because she knows she can get away with it. I wouldn’t let add be an excuse not to listen . Work with her the first few times with the chore . Show her how it’s done. Teach her, explain to her. Also have patience . I promise it will get better if you work with her. But you have to take the time to do that. And reward when deserved. Also I have add and what really helps for when you guys are cleaning or organizing play smooth jazz, classical music or piano music. It really distracts the side of the brain that likes to distract you from the task at hand. It’s calming and helps me to focus. I also have my daughter listen to it during homework as well.

  • Elizabeth
    Feb 10

    What I do with my step son is make eye contact with him and say it slowly and calmly. As well as getting him in the kitchen with me and giving him easy praise tasks and when his hands are moving and youre calmly telling him what to do, and slipping in questions about his day, are much simpler than anything else I’ve tried.