I have been in my step children’s lives for the better part of 10 years. They are now 18 and 22 and have been living with us full time for almost 3 years. Their mother is “in” their life but her involvement reminds me of a dolphin. She’ll come into their lives for a dinner here or a movie there but for the most part she has not contributed financially and leaves most of the heavy lifting to us. This is getting tiresome. We have 2 small children of our own and we all live together in a beautiful home. They are very good kids for the most part but my issue is that they are not children any more and I am growing weary of catering to adult kids. One works full time but does not have the courage to move out, the other graduated high school almost a year ago and hasn’t held a job longer than 2 months. This scenario causes a huge rift in my relationship with my husband who wants me to be patient. I do not agree with the way he is dealing with them. I am not okay financially supporting any adult who isn’t making active steps to improve ones life. Please help!! I am utterly exhausted being a step parent who has no voice!!
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