Anonymous

I was at the park with my young children and I witnessed some 10-12 year old boys engaged in what looked like serious bullying of another child. They were hitting him and he was sitting in silence. I wanted to say something but I wasn’t sure if it was my place to do so and also wanted to protect my own kids. What would you do in a situation like that?

  • Julie
    Jun 14

    I would have probably frozen at first too. But if I saw something similar again I would probably record what I could while also calling the police.

  • Mrs. HHH
    Jun 14

    This makes me so sad. That poor little guy who was the target... this kind of stuff stays with the individual all the way through adulthood. I don’t know what I would’ve done- mind my own business or intervene?

  • Jennifer
    Jun 14

    I would record and call the police too!

  • Suzy
    Jun 15

    As far as anyone knows you are a badass that knows martial arts. Most people back down and scare off if someone speaks up. Hold your shoulders back and bark something witty at the bullies to make them stop. Cops take too long to get there and have more important things to handle. Or, petition your county to have a security guard patrol the area and do said barking.

  • Julie
    Jun 15

    To the original poster, I disagree with the two most recent commenters. First of all, 10-12 year old boys are at the prime of pack mentality. One of them was the leader and the other two would have gone along with whatever he said. You have no idea how he would have reacted to you approaching them and trying to help the boy. Second of all, she was there with your two toddler aged children. It’s horrible to put it this way, but you must always protect your own family first. Finally, I’m not sure about these boys at all, but I know a lot of 10-12 year olds who look like they could definitely beat my ass, and I’m it small. I’m not about to approach a group of bullies with my toddler in tow. At the MOST, I might call to the bullied child and try to help call him away but ONLY if I was confident I wouldn’t be targeted by the little jerks. Or I might try to diffuse the situation by asking the bad kids something really random, like where the nearest cvs was or something just to distract them or try to calm the whole moment down. But there’s no way, zero, I would just assume I could fend off three bullies while also protecting my children and keeping them safe. Maybe if the park had been full and there were more people who were willing to help but not when it’s just me with my two kids.

  • George
    Jun 20

    Yes, your kids come first. I'm a guy, so it would of been different, especially with all boys. I would of said something to the one being bullied, something in passing (don't want one of the kids yelling STRANGER DANGER LOL) like Hey, how are you, don't I know your parents? Just something so the other 3 know an adult is paying attention......

  • KenBK2
    Jun 20

    Record what you can and call the police. If you’re that afraid to intervene, that is the best option. But to leave the bullied child alone is irresponsible for any parent. What if that was your child and no one did a thing to help him?

  • Melissa
    Jun 20

    I would intervene. Today the kid they are bullying may not be your own, but tomorrow it will be.

  • Jeanie Payne
    Jun 20

    Hitting is not bullying. It is assault. Police should be called if you witness assault. Take a short video or picture, call the police, and tell the kids you called the police.

  • Uju
    Jun 20

    Did you end up doing anything? It is your place to say and do something! They're 10-12. Not full blown teenagers. More likely to be afraid of you and will run if you start screaming at the top of your lungs. Such a sad scenario.

  • Natalie
    Jun 24

    They are kids, you’re an adult. Not only is it ok for you to intervene but I would pray that if someone witnessed that happening to my own child they would speak up. If my child was the abuser I would hope that another adult would call them out and hopefully let me know what happened.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 09

    This happened to me a couple months ago except it wasn’t bullying - one kid was beating the sh*t out of the other while everyone else recorded and watched. Myself and another mom both stepped in yelling and trying to get the boys to separate until a dad and grandpa came over to help. The dad restrained the boy until some kids came to help, as well. The cops were called however they didn’t have jurisdiction - some agreement with the school next door. Telling the boys that we called the police didn’t help. We had to wait until the one kid could run away and other literally tired himself out. We can all say that I would do this and I would do that, but you don’t know until you’re actually in the moment which instinct is going to kick in.

  • Natalie
    Jul 10

    Absolutely step in. Help the child. Stop the violence. Report bullying. Save a life. Elementary and middle school suicides increase credited to bullying. Lead your children by example and equip them to handle bullies responsibly when they face it on their own.