Posted in Babies, Newborns, Postpartum Recovery

Inconsolable newborn: advice/support?

Anonymous

I had my first baby via c-section yesterday, and despite everyone saying babies tend to be sleepy in the first 24 hours she cries nonstop and my husband and I are going insane. The nurses and pediatrician tell us she is completely healthy and this is normal but I just can’t believe this will be our new normal. We try swaddling, shushing (all the 5 S’s really!), I feed her constantly, but she just won’t stop fussing. Did this happen to anyone who was able to get their baby to sleep/be more calm? Any tips/word of wisdom would be much appreciated, we are losing our minds over here and the inability of the nurses to identify any causes is driving me crazy!

  • Catharine
    Apr 18

    Yes, we lost our minds over our newborn, thought there MUST be something wrong. She’s 1.5 years old now and a healthy, sweet, wonderful toddler with the best personality. I love hanging out with her. I empathize with you saying “we can’t believe this is our new normal.” I went through a lot of depression becoming a new mom. Just know you will get to the other side and give yourself a lot of grace. And get help!!! I have affordable people I can refer you if you like for childcare/babysitting - friends of our marry poppins nanny who are in between jobs. You just need to get through the first six weeks to get over the first hill!

  • Catharine
    Apr 18

    Also I think I can really empathize with what you’re saying because, looking back, I spent all this time preparing for birth and not any time preparing for motherhood. It’s a big adjustment. Give it plenty of time.

  • Annie
    Apr 18

    All the planning in the world cannot prepare you for something like this. Something that before yesterday was completely foreign. My baby was born a month early and was poked and prodded every two hours the first few days so when she finally drifted off to sleep someone would come in and take her temp or monitor her heart beat and the inconsolable crying would start all over again. My LO is one year old this week and for months has slept through the night, quietly plays in her crib in the morning and lets me sleep in a bit when I need to, laughs and giggles more often than she doesn’t. I know it doesn’t help now, but stick with it. One day it’ll all be worth it when she wakes up in the morning, looks up at you from her crib, gives you a big smile, and reaches her arms out for her favorite person in the world. Her mama. You’re doing great. It’s a scary new world for her right now and although she can’t show it she appreciates every thing you’re doing for her.

  • James
    Apr 19

    My wife and I have a 6 month old boy. For the first 3 days after he was born he was extremely fussy and did not sleep but for 20 minutes at a time. It was a nightmare. My wife was breastfeeding it seemed like every hour or so. We decided to see a lactation consultant, best move we ever made. After seeing a lactation consultant we found that her supply was not enough to fulfill our sons needs. We had to supplement with formula for a week or so until her supply was up to par. On the fourth night we were so excited to start seeing 3 hour spurts of sleep and a happy baby.

  • Emily
    Apr 19

    My daughter would not stop crying for the first 3 days. Once and awhile she would sleep for an hour or so. I honestly think it was because she was not getting enough milk from me right away - since I was breastfeeding, it seemed like she was eating and getting some but she wasn’t. And I didn’t realize. After my milk came in she was completely different - a milk monster and growing quickly. It’s the one thing I wish the classes and OBs and nurses told me: that even though it does take a few days for the milk to drop, those first days with the colostrum and whatnot are generally not enough to satiate a brand new baby.

  • Jenn
    Apr 20

    I have an 8 month old and he was c section as well, he was born jaundiced so he was getting poked every single day he did cried a lot during the night found out my milk supply was super low as a matter of fact nothing was coming down and finally the nurses suggested to get a lactation consultant but for the time being i had to formula feed him, after that he was good. No complaints now he sleeps 8 hours at night. I have heard that we mothers who deliver csec does tend to be harder to get milk supply going, so look into it . It does gets tiring we are never prepared for whats coming if you both have an extra hand its best to get that help. Wish you good luck.

  • Aditza
    Apr 22

    My guess is that your baby is hungry or uncomfortable. Some babies are lactose intolerant, you may want to look into that.

  • Lily
    Apr 23

    Put her on your chest skin to skin......that is the only way mine would sleep and stop being up set! Good luck!

  • Cristy
    Jun 15

    I have a 5 week old and sleep is a nightmare for my baby. Luckily this is my second one and I know this absolutely horribly trying time does get better. I am going to put it out there, I really dislike the newborn stage. It’s draining physically, mentally, and emotionally. Just know you are not alone and it will get better.