Anonymous

Introvert..

So I’m a bit of an introvert. I don’t like talking to people lol. Besides my husband. I prefer to always be doing something or working than talking to friends/coworkers. Like I’ll never sit and get coffee with a friend. I’ll only do that if it’s a friend I rarely ever see. My best friend came over to my house on Saturday and I found it awkward. Normally we are in a group setting, outside of the house. And we text all day long. And sometimes I have mom brain so forgot about Things that I would probably tell her. I feel like I create lists of things to talk about. My husband is the same way, though he is much more social than I am. A friend invited him over to a house (gf/wife’s were busy) and even he was like "Wtf do I do there. 3 men in a house?" I always feel awkward when alone with people. Why do I feel this way??? I see like a fraud calling her my best friend, is it bc we text all the time and run out of things to say? Do other introverts feel this way? Is it normal? How do you deal? Do I need a therapist?

  • Shauna
    Oct 29, 2018

    Welcome to the club. I'm labled an ambivert BUT I'm more introverted. There's nothing wrong with you, lol, it's just we don't see things like other's do and that's ok.

  • Andrea
    Oct 29, 2018

    Sounds totally normal to me! It took me a good long time to come to terms with who and HOW I was, as it was certainly different than I’ve been led to believe was “normal”. But now that I’ve accepted who I am and am unapologetic about it, life is way easier. There’s waaaaay more of us than you think! I find that I actually enjoy “people time” now way more than I did before I was “out” as an introvert, because now my friends understand me and know that I’m not trying to be rude or antisocial, I’m just awkward and introverted and don’t generally like people. I like the friends I have and can handle them 1:1 in small enough doses and since I no longer feel the drain of having to pretend to be someone I’m not, I find that I can actually be social for a little longer than I could before. Then I hit my limit and I’m done! Don’t feel bad for who you are. There’s nothing wrong with you!

  • Celeste
    Oct 29, 2018

    I’m the same way !! Reading you post made me feel better knowing I’m not alone !

  • Tori
    Oct 29, 2018

    I’m an introvert, I’m a new mom so I don’t get to socialize much and my fiancé is the opposite. So I don’t think you need a therapist, perhaps just adapting to new things isn’t easy for you. But it’s always good to go out for coffee with other adults, I think that helps! Good luck

  • Lindsey
    Oct 29, 2018

    I am exactly the same. I go to therapy and have a hard time there talking to her sometimes 😆. Seriously though there are people like us and there aren’t. Don’t compare yourself be you.

  • Jenny
    Oct 30, 2018

    Same! People keep telling me about groups for moms so I won't get so lonely being a SAHM, but it sounds awful to me! 😜

  • Meghan
    Oct 30, 2018

    A few topics that always work: How's work? Do you have any plans for the weekend? (On Thursday/Friday) How was your weekend? (On Monday/Tuesday) What are your plans for (insert upcoming holiday)?

  • Cara
    Oct 30, 2018

    Whew! I am exactly this way, and pretty much happy to be this way. Unfortunately my bf and I are having problems right now, and he feels I do need to see a therapist because of my "anti-social" behavior, but I don't agree. I have the capability to be social, if I want, but I'm generally quiet and observe people. It's hard for me to come up with things to talk about.

  • Amanda
    Oct 30, 2018

    Hhahahah. I'm definitely the same! 🤣 I'm no good with small talk. I don't like to argue and I feel like so many things nowadays are so controversial I don't even know what to talk about. I try to take my baby to story time at the library as often as I can so he can see other kids and socialize without it being awkward for me.