Introverted or something more?
I have a 2.5 year old daughter whose been in daycare since she was 12 weeks old. She’s sweet and loving and I always get the nicest reports from her daycare teachers that she’s a “great listener,” “shares well,” etc. she’s also an only child and given the $$ we had to spend on multiple rounds of ivf and my and my husbands advanced age she will probably (99.9%) always be an only child. Her teachers have never indicated anything is behaviorally wrong with her in any way and whenever I take her to well checkups the questions her pediatrician asks and my answers back indicate there’s nothing amiss. However I have noticed that when we go to the playground and there’s lots of kids there she hangs back and prefers to watch rather than engage. Or she wants to play with just me. Which is fine, I love having time with her but I’m wondering if she should be wanting to play with others??? Also in the last couple of days when I’ve logged in to her daycare app to view pics or videos of her day I’ve noticed she’s often off to the side watching others rather than directly engaging in the activity. If it’s a small activity in her classroom she’s doing it but when it includes more than one class or other kids she’s not used to she’s not engaged. Examples, yesterday they had their normal monthly song and dance festival where a musician comes in and plays music and sings and signs with the kids. In the pic they uploaded she’s off to the side with the teacher between her and the crowd just watching. Then in the video you see all the children from the three twos classrooms dancing and jumping and singing but my daughter is standing to the side just watching. Then today they had an indoor soccer experience class. So basically some soccer coach comes in and the kids kick balls into goals or whatever. In the videos posted my daughter is sitting and watching all the kids kicking soccer balls but she’s not participating. I plan to discuss with her teachers tonight at pickup but the end of the day can be so hectic and sometimes her main teachers aren’t available to talk at that point. I’ll try to discuss in the morning if I can’t today. Anyway I just wanted to know if this behavior seems off or wrong to any of you?? She hardly ever complains about school and is usually very positive about going and she speaks happily and contentedly of her teachers and friends.