Is it always a struggle to make kids sleep on time?
I tell people my now 15 month old has been refusing to sleep since he was a young baby. They say he’ll pass out once he’s too tired, and then I know they are underestimating my situation, because this has never happened in his post newborn life. He will literally blast past nap times, sleep time, grow dark circles under his eyes, rub his eyes till they're red, get slow and cranky, even melt down, and if you put him down he will still get back up, no matter how often you try. Again and again. Then they will ask, "Well, have you tried..." Yes, I have. Whatever 101 technique they are about to mention that can be googled, I've tried. Singing him a lullaby. Nope. Just makes him more energized, and he demands I sing it again. On loop. Puts in the request even sometimes before the song ends. Rocking him and/or singing a lullaby until he's drowsy. Nope. Soon as I even start to put him down, he pops up alert. Doesn't matter how drowsy or even asleep he is. Once he begins that decent to the sleeping surface, he springs into action. Sleeping next to him. Nope. I just end up being the one who falls asleep, and then I'm too tired to stop the kid who is climbing all over me. Putting him to sleep in X location. It doesn't seem to matter whether he sleeps in my bed or in his pack n play, in our home or somewhere else, he'll refuse to sleep anywhere. Making his sleep area conducive to sleep. Haha. Lights off, temperature warm or cool, a speaker softly playing his favorite lullaby on one hour loop, all toys and stimulus put away, with or without his favorite stuffed animal as a sleep buddy, with or without a sleep sack, fresh sheets, expensive new mini crib mattress, fancy pillows, making the space as boring as possible. I've. Tried. It. All. The only result is that I'm out more money and hours of my life that I'll never get back. Tiring him out. Hahaha! By experience that's giving the little terrorist what he wants. Establish a sleep routine. He's literally had one since he was a baby: bath, moisturize all over, change into pjs and fresh diaper, brush, read book, fight to sleep. Taking him to his doctor. On many occasions we've seen his pediatrician, several nurses, Parent-Child counselors, veteran parents, and baby whisperers. They all said nothing unusual seems to be the case with my kid, and that he seems perfectly healthy. Then the 101 tips come. Crying it out. Seriously, this is the only thing that's remotely worked, and only half the time. Not great odds. When it doesn't work, he will cry endlessly. Or he'll cry, fall asleep, fight sleep and get back up, cry some more, repeat. He's louder now as a toddler and our walls are thin. No one and none of the neighbors win. I'm worried someone might call the cops on the noise. What we resort to doing now is scolding him when he keeps getting back up. It's come down to yelling at him after 20 minutes of trying to help him sleep with all of the above, because it will be countless hours if you don't. I hate this!!!! I hate that I have to get yelling mad at my kid every damn night before he will do something he ultimately wants to do. I hate that the rest of the household has to be exhausted and livid before he'll stay down. I hate that if you don't do this, the entire house will revolve indefinitely around getting him to sleep, fruitlessly. And even scolding doesn't always work. Is this something I have to live with indefinitely? Or is there a way for a kid like mine?