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Is it okay to take a break from our marriage

I recently stopped drinking and using drugs. In getting sober I let my wife know just how much I’ve lied to her over the years. She is needless to say angry, hurt and distrustful of me at the moment. At the same time though she had been moving on without telling me and was in an emotional relationship with another person. Now we are working on just being friends first before we move forward in anyway with our relationship. We have a ton of kids together by the way. My question is because she says she doesn’t know how she feels right now and she wants us to take a break from our marriage for a bit and be friends and roommates for a while while she figures out who she is without just being the person who takes care of everyone around her. Should I be really worried that she is going to move on without me and end our relationship? Has anyone else ever taken a break from marriage? How did that turn out? Maybe I should also state, we are continuing with couples counseling and she says she is perusing counseling as well.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 22, 2018

    If she needs to take a break, then it’s ok. But I’d advise making a plan with her for how you’re going to work on things. Marriage counseling would be a great idea.

  • Patrick
    Oct 28, 2018

    So just as a short follow up she has settled on wanting to date other people. She says she is going to go experience a sexual relationship with this other man, and that after that we will see how she feels. I am not sure how I feel about this. Honestly, If she had come to me before I discovered the relationship on my own I would have been okay with her starting this idea of an open marriage type situation. I’m still not sure how I feel about this.