I’ve been wanting to get my VERY attached 3 yo in his own room. I have to lay down with him in our bed until he falls asleep, and then transfer him to his toddler bed that’s in our room. He crawls in our bed in the middle of the night. We’ve lived with family and shared a room up until this point so sleeping in our room is all he knows. I also have a 9 mo sleeping in his crib beside our bed. Getting my 3 yo down for bed when my baby is sleeping is so hard and usually wakes him up! Is there any hope for my 3 yo to fall asleep on his own in his own room?! Where do I start? How do I gently sleep train him without him being scared that he’s not in our room sleeping?

  • G
    Apr 19, 2018

    We’ve had this problem too. We did what you’re doing now. We also tried giving rewards if she slept on her own. In the end, it all got fixed just from explaining how she’s no longer a baby. I explained to my daughter how she is now a big girl and how she had to sleep on her own. I gave examples of her friends sleeping by themselves. It all depends on the child, but our little girl thought she was still a baby.

  • Ashley
    Apr 20, 2018

    My son had this problem too! We really talked up the “big boy bed” and let him pick out bedding he was really excited about. Then we built the routine around him being in his bed. We read books and sing songs with him in his bed and me or my husband sitting next to it. Usually, we turn off the lights for the songs and rub his back while we sing to calm him down and we used to stay until he fell asleep but we’ve finally gotten to the point where we can go out and let him drift off if we leave him with a couple books and a toy or two that he likes. He still comes in our room in the middle of the night sometimes. That transition is so hard! Just remember to do what works for you. There’s no perfect method. He’ll get there :)

  • Howard
    Apr 20, 2018

    I motivate my son to go to sleep by talking about what we will do the next day. Playing, having a yummy breakfast etc... But I stress that we have to sleep first. It works half of the time.

  • Vicki
    Apr 20, 2018

    Following, same!

  • Dana
    Apr 20, 2018

    Could you try moving the toddler bed to his room and putting a sleeping bag on the floor? Start the night in his room and tell him there is always a place from him in your room but he should only wake you in an emergency. We do this with our 3 year old. For a while she was in her sleeping bag every night but it’s getting less often now. (Been doing it for about 4 months). We also give her a lot a praise when she stays in here room and no attention when she moves to our room.

  • Lindsey
    Apr 20, 2018

    I would lay with my son at the end of his bed until he fell asleep. Sometimes he would wake up in the middle of the night and scream bloody murder and I would lay there again until he fell asleep. All I can say is be consistent if you want him in his bed don’t let him in yours.. good luck

  • Mike Stemle
    Apr 20, 2018

    I got my kids to do this early. You’re just going to have to be consistent, and it’s going to suck.

  • Tiffany
    Apr 21, 2018

    Mine in my bed. I will do it until he doesn't want to!

  • Tiffany
    Apr 21, 2018

    Don't see it as a problem at all. We all knew what we were getting into when we allowed the co-bedding. I have no prob with it and wouldn't have it any other way!!!

  • Emily
    Apr 21, 2018

    My little guy had this problem too. I would sit by his bed and read to him until he fell asleep. I also put one of my t-shirts that I had already worn on his pillow, like a pillow case. He seemed to stay asleep longer when he could smell something that reminded him of Mom.

  • Dmpnyc
    Apr 21, 2018

    What your doing the next day helps , also keep moving them back to their room even if it’s 10 times , eventually they just want to sleep without being moved , might take a week but, hey everyone needs a goodnight sleep

  • Toni
    Apr 21, 2018

    My son was the same way. So I told him he could sleep in my room but not on the bed with me. I put his mattress right next to my side of the bed and have him get used to falling asleep of his actual bed. Then every night before he went to bed I moved the bed a couple of inches to the door and did this till he was almost out me door and just put the bed in his room.

  • Sarah
    Apr 22, 2018

    Do bedtime routine in his room (ie read his stories, say his prayers, sing bedtime songs... whatever it is you do) put him down in his bed and sit on the floor by him until he falls asleep. That’s what we did with both of ours, sometimes they would still end up in our bed in the middle of the night but our rule was they had to start in their own bed!

  • Dawn
    Apr 24, 2018

    Following. My 3 year old won't fall asleep unless he is on the couch or our bed. Then we have to transfer him to his toddler bed.