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Just found out I’m pregnant and I have a 15.5 month old...

Anonymous

So I just found out today that I’m pregnant with my second child. I’m excited but nervous . I have such a close relationship with my son and love giving him that one on one attention. I’m nervous about how my son and our relationship will be affected by my pregnancy and ultimately a new baby. My second child will probably be born just after my son’s second birthday. We were hoping to have another baby sometime soon but now that I am pregnant I’m feeling a little sad about how things may change with my boy. It’s probably just hormones. Other moms who have similar age differences in their kids how did it work out for you?

  • Teddy
    Dec 22

    I totally understand. And it doesn’t go away. My first is nearly 5 and my (surprise) second is nearly 2. I still miss the days of it just being me and my mini-me daughter. Positive note: we stagger their bed times so we can have time with just her before bedtime. She is bigger and older so there are things only she can do: rides at theme parks, big kid play areas, etc. and sometimes I’ll just take her to run errands. It’s the little things from now on. Not so positive: I was definitely resentful, anxious, depressed, worried, angry, sad, etc while pregnant and after my son was born. I irrationally blamed him for the changes in our family dynamic. So, just be aware of that possibility. And try to not let it get in the way of spending as much quality time as possible with your big boy before #2 comes. I wish you the best.

  • Nathalyn
    Dec 22

    So crazy I just opened the app to this. I’m 16 weeks pregnant with a 17 month old daughter. And I also feel a little sad about it. We’re having a boy just before my daughter’s second birthday. And I have mixed feelings about it. I think it’s normal. Like I already love this one person so much. I’m jealous for her and I haven’t even had the baby yet lol.

  • Jennifer
    Dec 22

    Totally normal feelings! I got pregnant with my second when my first was 10 months old. They’re now 12, 10 years old. I worried about many things my oldest wasn’t walking yet when I found out, two kids in diapers, not having time with my oldest like I used to and how he’d act towards a new baby. Everything turned out great in the end he was such a great helper loved his new roll as big brother. Just breath it will be ok!!

  • Jessica
    Dec 23

    This literally just happened to me, and I have my new baby. She was born 4 days before my sons 2nd birthday. I had exactly the same feelings as you! My son is my little buddy and we spend every second together. We got him a baby doll and called it “his baby” before his sister was born, and put out All of the baby’s stuff to get him used to it being around. I was more worried about where he was going to be and how he was going to feel while my husband and I were in the hospital to birth the second! It stressed me out more than actually having another child 😂 Now she’s almost 2 months old and he just adores her. One thing that was tough was breastmilk pumping, I had to pump every two hours and then feed the baby, and as a stay at home mom without help from family or friends (we are new to this state) I had to let him do his own thing while I was busy with that and it broke my heart. I decided to switch to formula and now I get way more time to give him the attention he needs too ❤️ ( NOT SAYING that breastfeeding or pumping isn’t do-able, I just couldn’t give the attention my son needed while doing it, if you can 👏🏻 great!) Mommy son dates are needed once or twice a week as well so have your hubby watch the baby while you go out for ice cream or to the park! Sorry for the long story- just completely empathize with ya!

  • Tj
    Dec 24

    I’m due in a few weeks right before my first child turns two, and I also felt overwhelmed like the pregnancy happened too soon. I was worried my son would t be ready to understand but over the last few months he’s grown and matured so much that the timing seems perfect for a play buddy. He knows his unborn sister’s name, says she’s his best friend, tries to share his food and toys with her, washes my belly and covers it with blankets for her, etc. We did the same as the previous poster by getting him a play doll to play with first and he’s very gentle with it and enjoys putting it to bed and pushing the stroller. I haven’t gotten on the other side of it to know whether it will stay this sweet once she arrives but I’m definitely feeling better about the age difference now than I did initially.

  • Rosa
    Dec 24

    Completely normal to feel that way. My baby girl was born 2 mo before my son’s 2nd b-day. Throughout my whole pregnancy I began to tell my son that there was a baby in mommy’s tummy. Once the belly started getting bigger and we finally had a sex, we began to call her baby sister until we had a name. He would love to touch my belly because that was his ‘baby sister’ and he would also place his ear on the belly to hear the heartbeat. With time, he learned to understand, even at such young age, that there was a baby in my belly. Once she was born, he absolutely loved her from the very first day and knew that baby was coming home. Bottom line, just talk to your toddler about the baby in your belly throughout your pregnancy and it should be a smoother transition once the baby is born.