Posted in Family Life, Sleep

Kids sleeping in your bed at night? GOOD OR BAD?

Thanks for your input

  • Dani
    Mar 01

    Mix of both. Good bonding time for you and kids, bad for you and spouses relationship(for some). My son starts in his bed every night and normally ends up in ours halfway through, he’s 3.

  • Anonymous
    Mar 01

    I am not a fan. It’s a bad habit to kick. When I met my now husband and stepson (3.5 at the time) the same thing happened as Dani. It took a long time to get him to stay in his bed and just call if he needed someone. Now at the age 9.5 he doesn’t get up but he still has an issue going to bed without his father in the room. It takes a lot of time away from our relationship. It got to a point where I decided if my husband fell asleep in the bed with my stepson then I wasn’t going to bother waking him to come to our room. We now have an 8 month old and since we brought her home she has always slept in her own room in a crib. I told my husband I do not want to get in the habit he had with his son. Everyone has their own opinions but you need to do what’s best for you and your family.

  • Hope
    Mar 01

    I’m not a fan either but there are times I let my children sleep in my bed and that is if they are sick and have a fever. It’s a very bad habit to break for the child if they are sleeping in their parents bed every night and not trying to stay in their own room. However, that’s my opinion and you should do what works best for you and your family.

  • Michaela
    Mar 01

    Cosleeping has worked wonders for our family, personally. My son is only 9 months but I get 8-9 hours of sleep every night because my son sleeps so well in our bed. I’m not sure how “breaking the bad habit” will go but every child adjusts differently. Some transition smoothly and some don’t. We will see 🤷🏼‍♀️

  • Anonymous
    Mar 01

    My parents co-slept with me in the same bed, then transitioned me to my own bed in the same room when I became a toddler then eventually my own room. I really didn’t have any problems, had a night Light whenever I’d get scared is the only time I’d go to their room and after I fell asleep they’d put me back in my bed or my mom would come in my room. Now with my own baby, we do co-sleep. It’s just easier for night feeds/diaper changes and I plan on doing the same thing my parents did. It’s just nice to cuddle them when they’re tiny. During the day she waddles around and doesn’t like cuddles. I know some people are worried about suffocating but you have to be super careful when they’re little and give them their own space. So cons would be they hog the bed and you don’t get alone time with SO. But for us it works just fine. It really depends on you and your baby in the end.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 15

    I cosleep. I love it. I grew up cosleeping with my parents till I was about 4. It was a struggle to sleep alone but I did it. I plan to do the same with my daughter. My husband supposedly slept through the night his first night home. In reality he was put in a crib in his bedroom on the opposite side of the house and my mil or fil would set an alarm and go feed him every couple of hours. My husband has a horrible relationship with his parents and I’m very close with mine. I’m not saying that it all stems from cosleeping but for me, it’s important to me that my daughter knows whenever she needs me, I’ll be there. Eventually she won’t need me as much anymore but for now she still does.