Anonymous

Looking for advice

Hi im new to this and not sure how this works. I was wondering if any other single parents could give me some advice? I have a very smart 2 year old and he has been asking about his dad, like were is he when can he see him, those type of things. His father lives in another state so i tell him his in fl but he wants more answers and im not sure how to explain to a 2 year old that his dad is off doing his own thing. Thanks.

  • Nicole
    Oct 04, 2018

    Just be honest but not brutal. Explain that his father has his own life and that no matter what the people that are in his life love him very much!

  • Jase
    Oct 04, 2018

    Honest and truthful with compassion and love. While you are in that same conversation talk about how much you love your child and reassure him that you will always be there and that he can count on you.

  • T
    Oct 05, 2018

    Age appropriate truth.

  • Allison
    Oct 05, 2018

    I had the same with my oldest daughter. I was a single mom for 6 years with her. I always told her the truth. I would say things like “just you and me babe” in a happy voice an tell her that not all kids have a dads and a mommy. I wouldn’t say anything negative about her dad. At that age I just wanted her to know that she is still normal without the other parent. Now she is 10 and we’ve had better talks and she understands and isn’t angry.

  • Ashley
    Oct 05, 2018

    Is it possible to FaceTime or Skype? It helps my son while we are away from my husband and always when we are away from family

  • Anonymous
    Oct 05, 2018

    Thank you everyone for the advice. I do tell him that I love him enough for mommy and daddy. He just feels like it's his fault his dad isn't around which I tell him never to feel like that. He's dad doesn't want to facetime him.

  • Lulu
    Oct 05, 2018

    Ok that last comment brought tears to my eyes. You're doing wonderful, and God knows what you're going through. Lots of love and prayers heading your way.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 05, 2018

    Thank you Lulu this is my post and that was my comment

  • Ashley
    Oct 05, 2018

    I tell my son that families come in many different shapes and sizes some with one parent or two dads or two moms or even no mom or dad , what matters is that you are surrounded by people that love you very much and we are thankful that we have the family that we do. I never talk negatively about his biological father (although he is a real piece of work ) to him because that would be very hurtful. I know that eventually the day will come that he is old enough to decide if he wants to seek out his biological father and when that day is here I will just hope to have raised a strong and confident and loving son that will not be hurt by his donors absence from his life and I know that he will be smart enough to realize that his life has been far better off without him. And in the meantime I make it a point to do every possible thing a dad would do with a son so that my son will never feel that he got short changed while growing up.