Posted in Siblings, Tricks of the Trade, Multiple Children

Managing two kids under 2

So I am a mom or a one year old and another in the oven- due in October! Super excited! But for fellow moms out there, I have a question. How did you introduce baby to an already existing routine with your first child who is coming into toddler hood rapidly?! How does your schedule work with a newborn and toddler?! I’m sure I’ll get the grove pretty quick, but I’m a little anxious about it at the moment!! Maybe just the newness of finding out we are coming up on the 2 month mark, and it never occurred to me on how do you balance a schedule with one that’s into everything- and you can’t take your eyes off them, and a new born all at once?! Thank you in advance!!!!

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Feb 13

    So, I have three right now, my first two are 17 months apart, my second two are 20 months apart, and I am due in August, making my 3rd and 4th 21 months apart. All in all I’ll have 4 under age 5. Kids like/need routine, but they don’t necessary need a strict schedule. If you are a stay at home mom, you find that you cannot stay home for months and keep the world away from baby because your toddler needs to play and socialize. And that’s okay. I’ve found that my first kinda got screwed in the sense that he was much more sheltered. My third can do some much more for herself and plays so much harder and more independently. I guess what I’m trying to say is there is more flexibility in your routine than you might be able to see right now. At least as I see it, I recommend trying to keep that in mind so you don’t find yourself frustrated. There might be moms out there who keep a strict routine with young kids close together, hopefully they can give you better pointers than I’ve got. Regardless, soak in that one on one time with your first born and get ready to witness the greatness of bonds grow between them (in between exchanges of “I don’t like your face.”)

  • Christa
    Feb 13

    Thank you so much! That makes me feel less anxious about the whole thing! I’m super excited, but that was making me rather nervous! I totally appreciate the advice! My first born is kinda sheltered, we go out and do stuff, but he didn’t around kiddos as much as he should be. I’m excited for him to have a buddy and a bond with someone other than just mom mom mom! I think flexibility is totally key there! I absolutely agree with you! Thank you so much!!!! 💕💕💕💕

  • Alexis
    Feb 14

    My boys are 13 months apart and I was so nervous about bringing a newborn home with a barely 1 year old! Before baby was born we focused on sleep training our oldest and getting him on a good sleep schedule. That's probably the biggest game changer. If your older babe is on a consistent schedule then you (and him) at least have that to count on. Since newborns are so unpredictable, you just kind of have to go with it. Get all the help you can find in the beginning and just go with the flow and try not to stress over the little things. Force yourself to relax and snuggle both your babes as much as you/they want. This time passes so quickly! My boys are now 2 and 12 months and they are best buds, both sleep pretty well, and we've got a good routine in place. Granted, I am a sahm but even if you're not I'm guessing you'll have some maternity leave during which you can work towards a good routine and of your babes will be in daycare, that will help with getting them on a schedule. Good luck!!

  • Haley
    Feb 17

    The book Moms on Call is a great resource!