Mommy and me???

Trying to be an involved Father is a challenge, no doubt. I’m online looking for activities to do with my son (14 months old) and it seems like everything is angled towards Mommy and Me. What about pops? Just saying.. am i the only one that notices this?

  • Lara
    Mar 14

    And it’s not just a name. It is an issue.

  • Ed
    Mar 14

    I disagree with most of this sentiment. While Mommy & Me won’t kick you out, there are many women who do not appreciate my presence. I have stayed home with my 2 yr twins for 14 months now. I have attended the same library functions, playtime at the park, and zoo outings over that time, and I am still looked at like a freak. The only person that is in any way even nice to me and my boys are the paid employees.

  • SARA C
    Mar 14

    I have been a stay at home mom for the past 4 years with my 4 and 2 year old and I have met many dads at activities over the years as well as grandpa’s :) Not once have I ever witnessed or felt like they shouldn’t be there or be excluded. To be honest the moms seemed to gravitate towards them because they are less drama than other moms 😂 I am sorry that this is upsetting you but please know that you are most likely more than welcome 😊 you for this dad!

  • Anonymous
    Mar 14

    When I walk into a mom group and see a man sitting there interacting with his son or daughter.... sexy as hell! I love that you want to be involved. I do have one suggestion... start your own group and make it how you want it. When you stay at home to parent there just never seems to be enough to do outside the home. Also, I have a piece of warning when you attend mommy and me groups. we women like to share personal stuff that men just don't understand.... birth stories, post partum pains, periods, breast feeding, personally I think some of these groups are made just for women to whine about this stuff and know they are not alone. I was usually happy to see a man in the room because I knew I would get a break from the same old woes. But just be aware these conversations still happen. Good luck to you.

  • Deborah K.
    Mar 14

    My dad experienced this in the 1980s when he was home with me. He had a similar experience to Ed's. As a result, I made sure our dance studio named their parent/child class as parent/tot rather than Mommy and Me. I wanted to make sure dads felt welcome. Luckily, the owner also wanted dads to feel welcome. One would hope in this day and age it would be much less surprising to have a dad home with the kiddos. I know we have a co-op that has to check itself on it's mom-centric vibe but is working really hard to do just that. They had a daddy-daughter event about a month ago.

  • Z
    Mar 14

    On a logical level, I get the idea that “it’s just a name” and I should go, anyway, but then you walk in the door, and all you see are women, and you think to yourself, “maybe they do mean just moms?” And while everyone is polite, you can’t help but wonder if you’re really welcome. In the end, it’s easier (albeit more isolating) to just go to the park (which can have its own social challenges for a dad), stay home, or do pretty much anything else. I’ve taken both my kids to a toddler “gym” class over the past few years, and I’ve never exchanged more than pleasantries with the other parents (95% female) there, while observing them chatting each other up like old friends. Maybe I’m the socially awkward one? At the end of the day, I tell myself that as long as my little ones had fun, that’s what matters, and not me. 🤷🏼‍♂️ Heck, after having my first, I attempted to join a local parent group on Facebook and was declined while my wife got added immediately. EDIT: And while I may sound bitter, I also recognize that this is created/perpetuated by our patriarchal society.

  • Tracy
    Mar 14

    I’d say just go! If more dads start showing up, which would be great, then the programs will change accordingly. Until then just assume that they’re not excluding you.

  • Angie
    Mar 14

    Yeah....nevermind the name. “Parent & Pint” is more fair but it is what it is. And remember its just a name....once inside you might see more Dads. Check to see if there is a gymnastics place near you. Many will have certain mornings where theres free play or even classes to take with your little one.

  • Lucy Kent
    Mar 14

    I agree. I think you're just part of the first large wave of dads becoming more involved. You'll probably encounter this a lot while the tot is growing, but think of yourself as a pioneer in creating equality in a different aspect of society. In reality, it is going to take a couple of generations to catch on, but the more dads who speak up and join these mom groups, the faster these groups can become more inclusive.

  • Vonda
    Mar 14

    I’ve gone to a few ‘mommy and me’ classes. And I think it should be ‘parent and me’ personally. But whenever I see a dad; I say hi and say it’s awesome that he’s there. It’s always great that dads participate in things with their kids. My husband doesn’t get to as much. But he does when he can and loves it. So go for it! I’ve seen grandparents too!

  • Gina
    Mar 15

    Try Music Together classes! All caregivers are welcome, including nannies, grandparents, dads, moms, aunties, uncles..... go to www.musictogether.com to find a class near you!

  • Ryan
    Mar 15

    I’m definitely with you on this, as a single dad.

  • Tyson
    Mar 19

    Yes, I feel the same. Most of the mom stuff welcome dad's. But there's something nice about having events geared toward dad's. Or at least say a parents group. Us dad's get the short end of stick. But you have to make the best of it. You can check for local groups at https://citydadsgroup.com/ or check MeetUp. com for groups & activities in your area.

  • Tobi
    Mar 20

    I agree with you Dad's. You are doing great 😍🤗👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾