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Moms on call 6-12 months

Sorry in advance for a long post My son has always been a great sleeper. He is now 8 months. For the past month or so he has been waking up at least twice a night. He isnt hungry. if i try to give him a bottle he takes maybe an Ounce and is right back out. It seems to be happening around 11pm/12am and 3/4am. If I don’t go in the room he just cries. Half the time when I look on the monitor it doesn’t even look like he’s awake when he’s doing it. I decided to give the book moms on call a try. I’ve had a few friends rave about it. We are on day two of following the schedule. Day 1- he cried for about 15 for his 9am nap (I feel this is so early for him to nap, with waking up at 7am) but that’s what the book says. Then at his nap at his grandmas she said he did good. Bedtime- he fell asleep at 7:30-8. He woke up at 11pm and was just sitting in the crib looking around and crying then rolling around for an hour crying on and off until he eventually fell back to sleep. Day 2-(today) he cried again for 15/20mins for his 9am nap. They say it takes 3-5 days to break a habit and get on with a new habit. My questions are- 1- how long should you let your little one cry before going in the room (book says don’t go in at all at night til next day) 2- should I try a later morning nap or skip it and just do his afternoon nap 3- does anyone have any tips for me My bf hates hearing him crying he feels bad, as do I. I just want to get him back on his sleep schedule. My bf isn’t the one who wakes up 2 times a night to tend to our son. So it doesn’t seem to bother him, his waking up so much at night. But for me being a nanny full time to 3 kids while raising my own child is a lot especially when I’m waking up 2 times a night as well. Tired mama just needs so tips and advice. He’s eating habits are good. However he prefers baby food over a bottle. We are trying to keep a routine of bathtime, quiet time, read a book, bottle then bedtime. if i could get him to sleep as good as he does on me I’d be happy 😊

  • Andrea
    Jan 09

    I use dr ferbers method. Its less drastic... first night go in after 3 min, 5min, then 12 min (keep going in after 12 min until asleep). Second night 5,10,12. Third night 10, 12, 15. Etc... (there are charts online). He says the exact minutes dont matter as much as consistency and that you stretch it out farther every day. When you go in you can rub their back, shhh, its night night time, etc. but dont pick up, and don’t stay longer than one minute.

  • Meliss
    Jan 09

    Andrea- Thank you so much I’m gonna look up that online now and see if this method works better

  • Christa
    Jan 09

    You might also look up “Bringing Up Bebe” it’s a fantastic book and addresses babies being able to do their nights and how to accomplish it. I used it and my son is doing his nights 100%.

  • Meliss
    Jan 09

    Christa- thanks. I’m up for any and all options.

  • Anna
    Jan 09

    I second the incremental Ferber method-it worked well for us!

  • Anna
    Jan 09

    I’m sure he does give some sample schedules—it’s been a while since I looked through the book. I’ll try to have a look and see if I can post one.

  • Jenn
    Jan 09

    I can't seem to read the replies, so sorry if this is repetitive. My first thought is teething. My almost 8 month old is going through something similar and I just saw her 4th tooth cutting through. Motrin and Tylenol are sleep time lifesavers. As far as his schedule, all babies are different. Mine usually goes down 2.5-3 hours after waking up now, so you may want to try adjusting by 30 mins and see if that helps. As for crying at night, depending on the cry, I usually let about 10 mins go by because mine doesn't really cry at night unless there is a reason. When i was sleep training her, I would wait 15-20 mins before going in to see if she could self-soothe.

  • Brianne
    Jan 09

    Ferber method! We did it at four months and Nights 1-3 were terrible. The fourth morning we woke up at 7 and thought something was wrong! He had slept through the entire night and after a month we have not had many hiccups. Babysleepsite.com is a lifesaver! Schedules, tricks, and great explanations on the Ferber method and how to adjust it to your child.

  • Meliss
    Jan 10

    Jenn- I at first thought it was teething. But I don’t see it feel any coming in. He got his two bottom teeth a few days before he turned 5 months and I never knew he was teething. He never complained or showed signs. Last night I put him down a little later like 8ish, tried using a nighttime diaper (I thought maybe he was waking up because of his diaper) at around midnight woke up for 2 mins and fell back asleep til 7:15! My mother in law just pushed everything back one hour and I think that seemed to work. I skipped the 9am naptimme. Seems too early for him. Hopefully tonight goes smooth again. I appreciate all the tips 😊

  • Meliss
    Jan 10

    Brianne- the Ferber method seems to be the way to you! Tonight will be night 3 so hopefully it starts to get easier from here on out. 😊

  • Jenn
    Jan 10

    Meliss- glad things seem to be working out. My LO is pretty good with the teething too, but when she got super fussy and clingy, I looked in and there it was breaking through. I'd say keep checking because the upper ones are harder to see at first.

  • Meliss
    Jan 10

    Jenn- thanks. I will definitely be keeping and eye out for them 😊

  • Meliss
    Jan 10

    Thank you ladies for all your responses and tips! We are on night 3 (night 2 of dr ferbers method) and things are going great! We have cut out the early morning nap and he takes a longer afternoon nap. Keeping him on a bath, book, cuddle, bottle, bed routine and it seems to be working. I haven’t had to go in his room. Last night he woke up once, fussed (tossed and turned to get comfy) for about 2 mins tops and slept til 7:15! We try to have him in his crib by 8pm the latest. This is one happy mama 😊

  • Elle
    Jan 11

    Ditto the Bringing Up Bébé book. Baby sleeps 12 hrs, no wakeups. Whenever she does, she soothes herself back to sleep.

  • Christa
    Jan 11

    Our little guy is the same way, and he only wakes up between 3 & 4 am and lays talking to his grandma whose now in heaven, and then goes back to sleep til like 7, I put him to bed at 630 pm!!

  • Anisha
    Jan 22

    What do you guys do before you put your LO to bed. I put my 11 months girl to bed at 7 or 7.30 max but she wakes up after 15 or 20 min and stays awake till 11.

  • Meliss
    Jan 23

    What i found worked for us is. We do dinner are 5ish then have a bath around 6ish followed by some quiet play time and a story. Then we have our last bottle around 7ish and he’s out for the night by 8 the latest