Posted in Behavior, Toddlers

My 2-year-old boy punches when he feels angry

Anonymous

Help me to change his reaction pls

  • anonymous mom
    Feb 24

    I would try reading some stories about ways to deal with anger (Little Monkey Calms Down or similar). I’d also tell him that he is hurting his friends/family when he does this and that is now how you make and keep friendships. I would also start taking privileges away, at 2 he should be able to fully grasp cause and effect. And finally I would learn where he is getting this behavior from and eliminate the model (maybe tv or something?). And when he does it I would not yell or shout. It may be that he’s found this is a way to get attention/reactions out of people. I’d instead try calmly saying that punching hurts, we don’t punch people, we use words to get what we want instead of fists, etc.

  • anonymous mom
    Feb 24

    Oh and to teach empathy I would try to remind him of a time he was physically hurt. It doesn’t have to be because someone hurt him, something like, “remember that time you fell and bloodied your knees? Remember how much that hurt and how much you cried? When you punch someone you make them feel hurt like that. Can you give them a hug and apologize?” If he’s not ready to hug/apologize, I’d maybe have him make them a card or something to show how sorry he is later. And when the apology comes, try to make him say why he’s sorry. I’ve found it helps a lot to teach my daughter to apologize but also say why. “I’m sorry for pinching you.” May seem so simple but it helps your son start to understand that sorry is ok but apologizing with admission is better. And it helps him to realize by saying it out loud that punching is not okay.

  • Anonymous
    Feb 25

    It’s totally normal and ok when kids go through a violent phase. It’s called terrible twos because at this point, they know what they want, but they don’t know how to cope when they don’t get it. As long as you make sure he’s not actually hurting, and you stop him when he gets angry, and you teach him consistently about how to deal with difficult emotions, he should eventually learn. It’s normal, don’t worry. And any mom who is freaking out when your kid gets angry is judgemental and unsympathetic. Especially when you do everything you can to fix it. Don’t worry! He’ll learn.