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My 2yo doesnt like to feed himself


Breakfast is the only meal I can get him to sit down and eat... And even then he might not want to feed himself. I think when he was learning to eat solids I had such an aversion to messes that I thought it better to feed him myself. He has the coordination to do it just not the desire. How can I encourage him to feed himself and actually sit down to eat (hes a travel eater) at this later stage.

  • Kieli
    Feb 21

    Following, my daughter will only eat if I feed her

  • Geena
    Feb 21

    Same and also because my LO got madly frustrated when he gets only half the spoon serving when it reaches his mouth so he passes the utensils to me. I will keep trying though

  • Amanda
    Feb 21

    Tell them what you expect then just don't feed them let them do it. If they miss one or two meals out of stubbornness they will pick up on it real quick and it won't hurt them. Also instill a rule if they want to eat it has to be in a certain spot then stick to it. My son is a picky eater. Each meal he gets three options on his plate. One I know he likes and 2 maybes. Then I let him decide what to eat. Some meals he won't touch a single thing cause it's not what he wants and I let him. He's never skipped more than one meal and snack in a row. Kids figure it out quick.

  • Jessica
    Feb 21

    Must be a 2 year old thing!

  • Raji
    Feb 21

    My daughter is 14 months and I thought she wouldn’t ever wanna feed herself but she is getting there. We do family style breakfast and dinner time; so that she gets used to sitting in one place and eat together. She can now eat finger food well enough and eventually will use utensils. Modeling helps a lot and patience :)

  • Kerry
    Feb 21

    I agree with Amanda and would say the same thing. Ive been a nanny and i had one child who wasnt eating unless spoon fed she was about 4. I told her im not doing that and she can sit there until she ate. Once she realized i wasnt backing down like her parents then she ate it. Kids will not starve themselves! You just have to be consistent and send out the same messages not mixed messages. So if you start getting him to feed himself dont go back to feeding him cause thats a mixed message then they play on it knowing youll feed him. If he needs help thats different, maybe start with pre loading forks and spoons. My little one is feeding himself pre loaded forks he hasnt quite got the spoon down with food on it but can get it in his mouth. Ive always given him a spoon at meals (he just chewed it to begin with) im going to start giving him free rain with a spoon soon for yogurt oatmeal etc. Does your son feed himself finger foods with his fingers? Thats another way to go give him foods that are easily picked up and let him do it then get him to use cutlery.

  • Vic
    Feb 21

    Thank you everyone for your Input. I do give him finger foods and he does eat those. The other day I was feeding him stew and I told him to feed himself and pushed the bowl over to him. He pushed it back and said no thank you...omg! It was a little funny. But I have been trying the suggestions and they have been working.