Anonymous
Nov 22 Fullerton, CA Child Care, Infants, Sleep

My baby boy has to start school next week at 16weeksold. Unfortunately, that's the latest start date due to the ending of my maternity leave and no family members who can take care of him. An advice for those who started their babies this young? How did their sleeping patterns change?

  • Lo
    Nov 22

    My youngest started at around 18 weeks old, and I can only tell you that it will be hard. You’ll probably be very emotional and feel some guilt when dropping off. It all shall pass. Mine did not sleep the same amount while in the new environment, but other than that I didn’t notice any other changes. Do not worry about calling the daycare one hundred times if you are feeling stressed out and want to check on him. My baby is now two years old and attending the same daycare. However, I pulled him out after two months due to consecutive butt rashes... at which point he went to a very recommended at-home daycare. I felt that for his age that was the best choice. He went back to his daycare last March and he’s very happy there. Long story short I spoke with the daycare owner about the rashes and the way I felt about said issue and decided to give them a second chance, and the caregiver I complained about was no longer there. They are after all, the best daycare in my town, and they have a great app that gives you minute to minute update on your child day. I think we go through hard situations when we rely on others to care for our precious little babies, and it is %100 about your child and YOU being comfortable with the people providing the care. Do not dismiss your gut feelings as a mom, they’re usually right. I hope this helps. Good luck!

  • Lindsay
    Nov 22

    Our boy started at 10 weeks. He was one week post colic at the time. It has been very hard on me & am still trying to find an option to be at home with him. When he was younger he slept ok. Now that he's 7 months he's not sleeping hardly at all there. I think too much going on. He's exhausted at night. I feel so bad. On the flip side, I'm sure the stimulation is good for him. I also see him watching the other babies crawl & trying to learn the mechanics from them. I also think he's attached to the daycare providers which is positive. If I had to do it again I'd have found a daycare close to work rather than home . I'd get such bad anxiety & it'd help to visit him over lunch. What also helped me was working ten hour shifts so I had to send him fewer days (even if they were longer). It also helps to have my husband do the drop off & me do the pickup. Calling to check in helps. Making sure he has everything he needs helps so I feel like I've at least gotten him cared for that way. It's been tough. Just do what's best for you & your baby. Take care of yourself...

  • Anonymous
    Nov 22

    Thanks soooo much for the advice and for sharing your experiences! I wish the US prioritized maternity leave and pay. It's so unfortunate that we have to make these type of decisions at such an early age for our babies.

  • Khoi
    Nov 25

    It’ll be fine.

  • Katya
    Nov 25

    Mine started at 13w. It can be done. For you, it will be emotionally difficult, but your child will be just fine. I started at a daycare but then ended up switching to a home daycare, which works out GREAT still. She's now 18 months. The home daycare follows our nap rituals, no problem. The transition was so much harder for me than it was for her. Also, she has had very few illnesses since being at the home daycare. She's 18 months old and has had two colds in her life. Never hand/foot/mouth. Fewer kids = fewer germs.

  • Courtney
    Nov 25

    I had to start mine at 9 weeks . I ugly cried the night before his first day, but it got better over time. Plus side, I found that getting back to work made me feel more like myself, which can be hard right after baby. I did get my little man a portable white noise machine for them to hang from his crib. He has always been a champion napper. The sound machine goes on and he goes down!

  • Michael
    Dec 07

    Mine started at about the same time as yours. He’s adored at his daycare and has never cried when we leave him. I think it has been great for his development. Yes, he gets sick more, but that’s okay too because it’s building up his immune system.