My boyfriend's complicated + expensive divorce stresses me out. How do I live with this?
I posted a few months ago and it made me feel so much less alone in my situation... so now I'm back for more. For over a year I've been dating a single dad. He's the best. He's raising 2 kids mostly on his own. The kids seem to like me and I've been getting to know them better. My boyfriend and their mom are in the process of getting divorced. It is complicated for many reasons I don't really want to get into here (the kids, mental health, less-than-attentive lawyers, money, extended family baggage, distance... especially money.) My question is: how do *I* live with this? How do I stay sane amid a crazy and stressful and overwhelming situation? I feel like I am way too invested in it all and there is nothing I can do to fix any of it. The numbers and the details make me so anxious. I do lots of yoga and try hard to manage my own energy and do my own things. He and I are going to experiment with not talking about any of it for the next week. That means he'll need to vent to other people. I love him and want to be there for him but I can't drive myself insane in the process. Have any of you dealt with secondhand divorce stress? How did you manage it? Did it ever get easier? Thank you!!!