Posted in Behavior, Preschoolers

My daughter is 3 and no is her word of choice these days

Seems like that’s her answer for everything, it’s beginning to be frustrating. Her dad says she’ll stop as she gets older and learns but it’s pretty clear she knows exactly what it means, how and when to use it in her favor so I don’t feel as if I should continue to let it slide. Any advice?

  • Anonymous
    Apr 28

    Don’t ask questions with yes or no answers. Give two options. Would you like to sing as we walk to the bathtub, or skip? Which of these two shirts are you wearing today? You get one last thing at the playground before we leave, what will it be?

  • Rachel
    Apr 28

    My daughter did this in her twos. Honestly I just responded with the “excuse me?! You reply with No, thank you mama...” and go from there. From what to eat etc....we had to have some hard talks and moments I carried her out crying but it all was for the better.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 28

    My son is 3, we have started talking about respect and what it means to be respectful. His favorite thing to do is yell when he's frustrated, so we talk a lot about how it's not okay. But I also talk a lot about when it is and isn't okay to say No. He is potty trained, and sometimes in daycare they tell him to go potty, but he does t want to, so I tell him if he doesn't want to do something to say "no thank you". NO is usually one of the first words kids learn the meaning of because adults are constantly saying it to them. So she's probably known how to use that word since she was 1, now at 3 she knows it's going to get her what she wants because you and your partner are letting her get away with it. Kids learn by their parents example. So make sure you tell her what you expect from her, what she can say instead of no, and when it is and isn't okay for her to be the decision maker.