Anonymous

My husband and I work full-time. My 3 year old son is in part-time preschool 9am-12pm. He enjoys preschool but looks forward to coming home with our nanny (full time live-in) by 1pm, has lunch and naps for a couple of hours, plays for an hour and my husband and I are back by then. We are expecting our second one in 3 months. Our nanny keeps hinting that she may be leaving us soon. Is it early to put our 3 year old in extended care 9-5pm at his preschool? We tried it a couple of times when our nanny took sick days and he hated it. He told us multiple times that he did not like napping there and that we should come pick him up after lunch.

  • Stephanie
    Feb 12, 2018

    I agree with Christina daycare is expensive. I have worked at daycares as a teacher and director some children just do better with a half day the long day is too much stimulation for them.

  • Julie
    Feb 12, 2018

    I would start by explaining to your nanny that the way they choose to exit the relationship is just as important as how they take care of your child. Hinting at leaving sounds like adolescent behavior that I would find really irritating! Having said that, my 6 month old is in daycare about 5-6 hours a day and handles it really well. Eventually she will have to be bumped up to ft. I think that the older they get, the more they enjoy the social aspect of daycare and seeing all their friends. Good luck!!

  • Nikola
    Feb 12, 2018

    How about an au pair if the nanny quits? Since you have the space to host that might be the cheapest for another year and maybe by then your son is ready for full time then.

  • Kristen
    Feb 12, 2018

    I would find a better preschool! He should LOVE it- and if he doesn’t it’s not the right one. At least two of my friends have seen negative behavior and moved their children to a different place and it’s been a success both times! Then worry about the nanny. May sure you have one reliable form of childcare. Hope this helps.

  • Anonymous
    Feb 12, 2018

    Wondering what you would do with a second child?

  • Morgan Muster
    Feb 12, 2018

    I think that’s a little long for a 3 year old at preschool. My step son goes that long, only because his mom wants him too. I would try and find another plan.

  • Tara
    Feb 12, 2018

    Personally that feels too long for a three year old. Best to discuss with nanny about her leaving, regardless of practical childcare, I imagine your son will grieve her absence, so best prepare him as much as you’re able and to plan a smooth transition from one to the next. Good luck!

  • Emilie
    Feb 12, 2018

    To put things in perspective, in France kids start school at 3 years old, and although some families choose to send their kids for half days, the vast majority goes from 8:30-9am to 4-5:30pm.

  • Tara
    Feb 12, 2018

    @emilie true, but even the National compulsory school age (6 years) is a contentious issue and been on/off reform for many years.

  • Tasha
    Feb 12, 2018

    Not to young. But if he isn't enjoying it i would speak with the nanny and be straight forward asking her what her plans are. I do in home care-use to nanny but stay home so i can keep my kids.

  • antigrav_kids
    Feb 14, 2018

    The oldest to kids went to daycare at that age. When the third kid arrived, hiring a nanny was cheaper than daycare times 3 (which we couldn't afford.) Having nannies has been so wonderful in comparison that we've never even considered going back.

  • Natalie
    Feb 15, 2018

    This is so interesting to me. I have an 18 month old who's only had an in house nanny, but I feel like she would love to be in daycare - I'm just not ready to do it. She's currently on a year and half long waitlist for a preschool. Should I not worry about putting her in there? I feel like I'm being a bad parent by keeping her home.

  • Angie
    Feb 15, 2018

    Hinting at leaving is not cool, especially when you are expecting another baby soon. I’d start liking for another nanny under the radar.

  • Angie
    Feb 15, 2018

    Or an au pair would be great...maybe a live in if you have room so she can be a night nurse for new baby too when needed. :)

  • Celene
    Mar 03, 2018

    As far as school goes, kids will often say they don't want to go and then they go to school, have a great time, and don't want to go home at the end of the day. Happens all the time

  • Celene
    Mar 03, 2018

    3 is not too young for full time preschool. I actually am a preschool teacher and all my students are 3. Some children really thrive on the education and routine while some have a tough time. Have a discussion with your child's teacher. They should be in tune with him enough to tell you if they think it would be a good fit. But, if you're worried about finances, a nanny might be more economical with two children. Have a discussion with your nanny, then your teacher. Perhaps give full time care a trial period before making a decision

  • Anonymous
    Mar 04, 2018

    Truthfully, only mom/ dad/ or full-time carer (whoever knows the child best) is able to gauge. There is never a definite right or wrong age for anything in life. Some folk don’t feel their kid is ever ready for ‘school’ so they home school them. I’d speak to the nanny- as well as directly ask her what her plans are, so you can safeguard your child’s main carer- and then speak to his teacher. Also speak to the child; not asking directly: do you want to go to school..? Etc but ask what he enjoys doing there, and with nanny at home, if he has made friends and such. Listen to your gut. Then make the final decision. Good luck!

  • Mimi
    Apr 15, 2018

    I am a certified nanny if you are looking for a new one I have 20 year's expeince