My mom criticizes me as a SAHM
It breaks my heart to admit & share that my mom does not make me feel proud of my current situation as a full time SAHM. Back story, she had me (unplanned & not yet married) at 19, then I think somewhere in between that, my parents decided to get married before I was born. But I know the full story because it’s like a bedtime story to me. At a young age, she kept reminding me of what they went through & they hope I won’t do the same. I’m sure it was hard. Fast forward, yes I end up getting married & having a child in my 30s. At some point I wish I could have married earlier/younger but I’m happy with my husband & our toddler. My mom keeps mentioning how she would like to help & look after our toddler but she lives in another country & is still working full time, so at most, she can visit once a month. She keeps emphasizing that I should not lose sight of my career, etc. I told her that it’s mine and my husband’s choice on how we want to raise our toddler & all of our future kids. She keeps suggesting I should work part time, put my toddler in a daycare or hire a part time babysitter, etc. I just can’t understand why would she wants her grandchild to be looked after by someone other than me. She doesn’t sound sweet in any way, it’s much more critical. She makes me feel like I have zero worth because I became a SAHM regardless of my bachelors degree & work experience. I know we parents mean well for our children but I hope that someday, when they became adults & have lives of their own, we respect them & just “cheer” on the sidelines for them instead of being another critic in their life. This whole thing just breaks my heart in many ways. Thank you for reading, I just need to let it out & let it go & try to believe my mom does care for me & isn’t just being a critic.