Posted in Behavior, Grade Schoolers, Big Kids

My son has really bad behavior

Anonymous

My son will be 6 next month, he is in kindergarten this year, and he is very bad every day. At school he hits kids, is disrespectful to his teacher and yard duties, he steals from his classroom or his friends. At home he is just as bad he doesn't listen, he picks on his brothers and I have a very hard time with him. I’m his step-mother and he's been this way since before I met him, I know he is a sweet kid, me and his dad and his grandparents have tried everything to adjust his behavior is there any advice that anyone could give me either just tips to help with his anger or even counselling options.

  • Jess
    Oct 30, 2018

    Maybe speak with his school counselor and have him/her meet with your son. This is a great resource for you, as a counselor may provide insight into his behavior. Also, because your son is at school every day, this is a great support system that is readily available to him if he needs it. I have a degree in school counseling, and most school counselors now are much more clinical, and not just teaching character education lol. Give them a buzz or shoot them an email. Chances are they will be more than happy to help!

  • Anonymous
    Oct 30, 2018

    He meets with the counselor and a social worker twice a week it isnt helping very much, he also see's a counselor outside of school once a month for the past 2 years it isnt helping either. His teacher suggested a more intense therapy for him we just dont know where to go for that

  • Anonymous
    Oct 30, 2018

    Speak with your pediatrician about having him evaluated for behavior concerns or emotional disabilities. She or he will refer you to the right place to have this done.

  • Jess
    Oct 30, 2018

    Between 2 counselors, a social worker, and a pediatrician surely someone can refer you to an inpatient or out patient program. I worked in child psychiatry for the past 3 years and saw these programs work wonders for teaching children pro social skills. Our kids mostly came in through a referral from their therapist or even through our emergency department if things were that bad. Good luck!

  • Michelle
    Oct 30, 2018

    Have you tried behavioral therapy one on one ?

  • Anonymous
    Oct 31, 2018

    No we haven't that’s what I would like to try if I could find somewhere to take him

  • Cesar
    Oct 31, 2018

    Do you ground him, meaning, does he get a natural consequence at home?

  • Anonymous
    Oct 31, 2018

    Yes he does

  • Cesar
    Oct 31, 2018

    I’m all about positive reinforcement, but sometimes a week without electronics does wonders.

  • Michele
    Oct 31, 2018

    Not sure what city/state you live in but possibly you have a children’s hospital near by that offers behavioral health. From your description it sounds like you should consult a behavioral specialist and possibly medication to help. Some children have a lot of anxiety and don’t yet know how to express it or even understand their feelings and act out. Your school district may even have one they can contact. Also if school is recommending a more intensive program ask them what/were. Google search behavioral therapist or therapy near me, ABA, brain balance, pediatric behavioral health

  • Kathy
    Nov 03, 2018

    Put him on medication for ADHD then wing him off by using some cannabis oils ( CBD mellow’s everyone out) , also try putting him in a high contact sport!

  • Cesar
    Nov 03, 2018

    Don’t put him on medication right away.

  • Jenn
    Nov 09, 2018

    Ask the school if they have any recommendations for a therapist outside of school. I'd also ask the pediatrician what kind of behavioral testing you can have done and where. Please don't jump to medication right away. Give it a good (at least) 6 months of therapy before you try to evaluate if it's working. You will need to change his environment if you want him to change. You may want to consider family therapy in addition to his so you can explore what kind of changes to make.

  • Hedith
    Nov 10, 2018

    My son was/is in the same situation. It started in kindergarten. He goes to a behavioral school and sees a therapist. He recently got expelled from daycare. Does he have ahcccs? If so there is a behavioral contact phone number on the card. They can assist you. My son goes to Jewish family services for his therapist there’s several in Phoenix.

  • Brad
    Nov 16, 2018

    I’m not therapist but there’s almost always something at the root of the kid’s behavior. Therapist can help you identify what that is, and mitigate.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 30

    Well my son's biological mother was a drug addict so I would appreciate if you didn't judge and call us lazy parents he has some developmental issues that we are working on but the problem we have is that he was thinks it's funny to watch people get killed or hurt so he won't stop bullying other kids we have tried positive reinforcement and every type punishment you could think of I always remind him he's loved and we just want him to be happy and he still doesn't care he wants to take revenge on anyone who makes him mad or upset