My son hates preschool! Help

He started preschool right after his third birthday(6wks ago). The first day he went right in and didn't even say bye to me. Then he started fighting me, not to go. I didn't think anything about it because he hates leaving the house to go anywhere and he always came home happy. He kept show a little more and more that he didn't want to go to school. This last week he started sobbing no school no school. I took him and left him crying. He would come home happy. Thursday I took him crying and left, only this time his teacher said he would just be in the middle of playing and start cry calling for me. I tried talking to him about it and he just starts bursting into tears. He either won't or can't tell me what is wrong. His teacher said everything is fine at school. What do I do? I can't even say the word school without him starting to crying. Can this be separation anxiety? He has always been home with me or my husband. This seems intense for it to be separation anxiety.

  • laura
    Dec 08, 2019

    same thing happened to me with my 3 year old daughter, she liked it the first couple of days and then it turned into a fight to go everyday, she would wake up crying at 3am begging me not to take her, it was very bad, i decided to change her to a different preschool and it was like night and day!! she now loves it and shes been slowly telling me little things that the other teachers had done to her like leaving her alone in the bathroom with the door open when she had had an accident and all the little kids kept peeking in and laughing at her to which the teachers did nothing, and that they screamed at her to sit down etc etc, i hope this isnt the case with your son but it never hurts to try someplace else if he really hates it that much

  • anonymous mom
    Dec 08, 2019

    I would talk to the director and see about switching rooms. It sounds like something is going on that he cannot explain to you. My daughter has been in school since she was 12 weeks old and the only time she acted like this was when she had a sub in her room long term due to one of her primary teachers being on leave. The sub was fine, but just didn’t jive with my daughter. I talked with the director and they had her try a new room for 2 weeks and it was a world of difference. Good luck

  • Ariel
    Dec 12, 2019

    As an early childhood educator, I know that it is a good idea that you go with your child in the class and stay there for like 5-10 min. This will help him to feel the transition smoother. Then you can say goodbye and tell him you will come back to pick him up. All this process should be done slowly, when you do it in hurry the child will not get accustomed to the transition and he will start feeling left alone and will cry for you.

  • Vonda
    Dec 12, 2019

    My son didn’t like to go in the classroom for the first few weeks. We would show up early before the classroom opened and sit on a bench in the hallway of the school. It has become his routine to sit on the bench until the classroom opens and I check he is ready. At first he would say “no” and I’d have to get him to go in by asking if he could show me the fish in his classroom or if he’s shown his teacher his new jacket, etc. but now he goes in without fuss. I just tell him the classroom is open and it’s time. He goes in and I say goodbye and walk out. We had a lot of tears during summer instruction. But over time it became easier and easier. Now he just waves goodbye and he’s good. It takes time. Maybe show up early and just hang out for a bit before you go into the classroom. Keep your goodbyes short and sweet. Tell him you’ll be back to pick him up. Good luck!

  • Ariel
    Dec 12, 2019

    Vonda that is because you let him to have a good transition from home to school. That is very important for children

  • Mrs. welsh
    Dec 23, 2019

    Your child just turned three. Is there a reason you felt he should attend preschool now instead of waiting until Sept 2020? If you are a stay at home mom, and it is causing him distress you may want to reconsider waiting a few more months. The little guy might not be ready for it just yet. You will be surprised how much he will change in nine months. ❤️❤️