Posted in Milestones & Development, Toddlers

My son is 20 mo but not talking. Should I be worried?

  • Kelsey
    Nov 24, 2018

    oh ok 😅. im a first time mom and all my nephew n nieces n other babies I see they started talking b4 his age. but what a relieve!!! went to dr chck up on 15 month and he told me give him another month or so he’ll start talking...but it been 5 months 😂

  • Marisa
    Nov 24, 2018

    Oh yeah. FTM stuff is always scary. All the milestones they’re supposed to reach by a certain age...they don’t tell you it’s not a one-size-fits-all scenario.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 24, 2018

    You should get an evaluation for his speech. They’re normally free and I think just about every state has some kind of infant/toddler intervention programs.

  • Marisa
    Nov 24, 2018

    Yes! We had our daughter evaluated. We thought she was only saying about 20-30 words but it was more like 50-60. We didn’t realize how many words she was actually saying until direct attention was given to it.

  • Heidi
    Nov 24, 2018

    My son is 20 months old and while he says a lot I feel that’s he’s behind but I know he will get there and so will yours! Just keep pointing things out and saying what they are. Try to also get your LO to tell you what they want or need instead of just grabbing it for them. It’s tough and they whine but it forces them to at least try and talk.

  • Aseel
    Nov 24, 2018

    My son was saying very little at 2 years he went To speech therapy but really didn’t help... but the last few weeks he’s started to repeat everything he hears. Next month he will be 2 1/2.some parents swear by speech therapy. For us it didn’t really work bc my son won’t talk during session

  • Mariana
    Nov 24, 2018

    It’s hard not to worry but try not to. My daughter who is now 3 is speaking more and more. When I know what she is trying to say, I tell her how she needs to say it slowly. At 2 she wasn’t taking much at all but some words. And I kept hearing of other kids that were already talking like no tomorrow at her age, I’d be worried but I kept hearing that they will talk when they are ready, and I guess it’s true. A good way for her to start saying words was when I would practice the colors with her. I’m pretty sure that’s one of the first good words she started saying other than milk, mom,dad grandma and grandpa. It also helped a lot that i wouldn’t do or get what she wanted until she at least tried to tell me what it was that she wanted, instead if her point it out and giving it to her.

  • Marisa
    Nov 25, 2018

    Our biggest mistake was calling everything “this” when my oldest daughter started to comprehend what we’re saying. Like, “do you want this?”, bc now she calls everything “this”....except milk.

  • Kelsey
    Nov 25, 2018

    thnk you ladies! I think I know my mistake now, is just give it to him as soon he looks ot point at things or goes “uh” n nodded. 😥... i will try naming everything to him n let him try saying it before giving. thnks for the tips

  • Tarie
    Nov 25, 2018

    It's hard not to compare your child's milestones with others but its absolutely correct, it's not a one-size-fit-all like someone mentioned. My daughter did not start walking until she was 14 going 15 months while the kids around had been walking at 11/12 months. I used to worry but her vocabulary was very strong. By the time she was 18 months she knew about at least a 150 words, she could count to 5, knew a lot of animal sounds,colors and shapes. She is 21 months old now and she sings her favourite nursery rhymes, counting to 12 and her vocabulary is maybe about 300 words now and everyone is amazed by how clear she speaks, and she is saying some 3 word sentences. She is also very inquesitive, she'll ask 'what's this' and she retains it if I ask her a day later. (proud but not bragging) Point is they reach milestones at their pace and if you look closely they probably started sitting/ crawling/walking etc earlier than other kids. Up to now my daughter is not as confident when climbing things at the playground/ park but I see kids younger than her just going for it and coming down bigger slides etc, One last thing, I talk to my daughter about everything we are doing, and repeat/ or put an emphasis on the word I want her to learn. For example, Where are Mommy's car ,keys', we need to get out the 'door'. Here are the 'keys' let's go. Are you going to help Mommy open the 'door'. I even turn around and say, 'say Keys' and she will say it back.

  • K
    Nov 25, 2018

    No. I had these worries too, but now he's 3 yrs old and won't quit talking. Enjoy the quietness.

  • Cara
    Nov 25, 2018

    I’d say no. My son started speech at 18 months didnt really start talking until maybe 2 months after he turned 2. I’d say normal but the weekly speech did help

  • Patrick
    Nov 30, 2018

    We ended up getting my son at age 2 An Early intervention evaluation. I highly recommend it! We do Speech, occupational, special instruction, and PT. I’ve learned so much and It’s been a God send! Plus the state pays for it. My son had a lot of sensory issues. Which I knew nothing about. He seeked jumping a lot of the times. We do massages and deep compression which in turn has been helping him talk more. He was recently diagnosed ASD. I’ve seen such great results in the past 9mths though!

  • Kelsey
    Nov 30, 2018

    i will mention to his dr abt the evaluation, not sure our insurance will covers but worth a try.

  • Janelle
    Dec 03, 2018

    My first child did not speak more than a few words until he was 2 years old. Started him on baby sign language and his talking exploded. My youngest is 2 years old now and she is leagues ahead of where her brother was at this age with vocabulary because we started Baby Sign time early with her. Check out Baby Sign Time episodes on you tube or your library.

  • Kelsey
    Dec 03, 2018

    I just brought my son in to his dr today for a cold. mention abt speech therapy and he said not to worry abt it too much until they turns 3 🤔. so i guess I’ll just try to encourage him to tell me what he wants before just giving it to him.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 03, 2018

    Heard several testimonies from parents where docs say not to worry and parents regret listening to them or simply don’t. As when they actually go to speech therapists, they find out the kids are delayed a bit. No harm in looking into early intervention programs now to help. It’s much easier for kids to catch up when you begin earlier. Ultimately your choice but if you aren’t worried, then don’t worry :).

  • Kelsey
    Dec 03, 2018

    wow really? now u make me worries again lol. but dont we need a referral if we want to take our kids? ill call ask my insurance then. thnks

  • Kelsey
    Dec 03, 2018

    Janelle u mention about baby sign time on youtube, is it the one w volume 1 and so on?

  • Anonymous
    Dec 03, 2018

    State interventions are free. You don’t need a referral. Didn’t want to worry you. Just to say that it is easier to catch early, and seeking additional help for the little one can’t hurt anything. Ya know :)