My son's grandmother imposing her religion on him
How the hell do you deal with religious fanatics in the family who force and coerce your child to become a member of their religion? My mother has found her dedication to the Christian faith in her later years. "You do you" is my stance, so hooray for her, but for my baby I'm letting him choose what religion, if any, he'll follow. That means I am not having him baptized in any specific religion; I will help him learn about all religions that he's curious about, and if he chooses a religion then I will support him and help him to join. I told her this when he was 0 months old. She said it's my choice how he's raised and no one else's opinion matters, so I took that to mean she respects my decision to let him choose. However, the other day she brought a small vial containing holy water and "blessed" the baby with it, as well as me. I reminded her that I'm letting him choose his own faith. She replied that it will be a long time before that happens, and he needs protection in the meantime. I reminded him I'm not baptizing him (my mother and I were baptized catholic as children, it's the family religion). She said that's fine, he'll still be in the Christian faith. Who says it's guaranteed he will choose a Christian faith? That's a hell of an assumption. Also, though she and I were baptized catholic from birth, my father was not baptized into anything, yet she's not throwing holy water on him for his protection nor trying in any way to even talk about religion with him. So why is it OK for my dad but not his grandson? Yesterday I left my baby with her for an hour while my sisters and I celebrated our birthdays at our spa appointment. When we returned, she said to my baby as she handed him back, "Now you and I have a secret." She won't tell me what she's referring to. I'm very concerned that she took him to a church and had him baptized without my consent while I wasn't there to intervene. Clearly she will impose her beliefs regardless of my wishes as my baby's mother. She will find a way to circumvent my rightful authority as his parent and guardian. How do I put a stop to her meddling once and for all?