Anonymous

Need suggestion for gifts for my daughter's daycare teacher who just lost her husband.

She has two young children as well. I would like to give something to them as well. Any suggestions would appreciated. Thanks

  • Jade
    Nov 29, 2018

    That is so hard. It’s really wonderful that you’re looking to support this family! I think a few meals are always a welcomed service during really difficult times. It’s nice not to have to worry about what to eat. Especially with young children. Offering laundry or cleaning services as well. Also during tough times people often want to say something to make it all better and although the intentions are good, it can sometimes be hurtful. Truthful empathy is really appreciated I think. “This is incredibly hard. I’m so sorry this happened. I’m here. You aren’t alone.” This illustrator makes cards for really difficult circumstances. Hope this is helpful! Keeping this family in my prayers. https://emilymcdowell.com/collections/empathy-cards/products/new-normal-empathy-card

  • Anonymous
    Nov 29, 2018

    Thank you so much these are great idea!

  • Anne
    Nov 29, 2018

    Another idea: offer to be there for her if there is some event where her husband would have been in attendance or where she would like the friendly support of another adult. A friend lost her husband and one of the hardest things for her was being alone at parent/teacher conferences, or school events where the dad was expected to come.

  • Birdie
    Nov 29, 2018

    Meals, babysitting (so she can grieve in private without having to be strong in front of the kids), see if a few husbands or men will come checking on them from time to time. See if anything around the house needs fixing. See if the family has any male figures that can comes & step in to help.

  • Vicki
    Nov 29, 2018

    We had a situation like this in our neighborhood recently and another neighbor now mows their lawn on the same day he does his own. Gift cards to nearby restaurants that do takeout/delivery. Even bringing her coffee in the morning when you drop your daughter off (assuming she’s back at work) is a nice gesture.

  • Cathy
    Nov 29, 2018

    Love the meal train idea. You can even set it up for a few weeks. See if she’s open to the idea and maybe you can get the parents email addresses from your daughter’s class. You could then email the meal train out to all the parents and would probably get a ton of sign ups. Also a cleaning service or lawn service. Being there to listen. A nice card too goes a long way - leave your info in case she needs to reach you.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 09, 2018

    We have had a similar circumstance in our family. My sister-in-law really appreciated gift cards to restaurants or grocery stores so she could pick out her own meals. With food allergies and preferences it’s the most adaptable way to go. She is fortunate to have you looking out for her and the family!

  • Amanda
    Dec 11, 2018

    Meals are always a huge help. Sometimes you just forget to eat but if it's right there and you can smell it, you're more likely to do so. Also, check back after a few weeks to let them know you still care. Normally, after the funeral, everyone goes back to their lives and now you're alone.

  • Emily
    Jan 05

    Depending on the cause of death, a donation to a like charity in the person’s name is thoughtful.