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Night weaning

My 10 month old falls asleep independently just fine, but we are still dealing with multiple might wakings where he wants to nurse. I’ve tried sending dad in, tried laying next to his crib and soothing in other ways, tried bringing him into my bed, tried letting him fuss for a while, but he can outlast my endurance every time and after a couple hours of struggle I just end up feeding so I can go back to sleep. I’m pregnant and really need to sleep. How did you night wean? Especially if your baby was breastfeeding?

  • Krystal
    Jun 25, 2018

    My pediatrician told us that at 4-6 months, the baby can handle going an entire night without waking up for feeding and she recommended that we start by working to eliminate the middle feeding so that we can actually sleep at 2am and then the ones before and after. My little one was very receptive to night weaning and now only has problems sleeping when her teething pain becomes too much and wakes her. She’s 6 months old. That being said, I’ve read about a strategy where parents will take that middle feeding and time it so they know how long it is, then reduce it by a minute per breast each night until the baby gradually ends up finding that waking up isn’t worth it anymore.

  • Anonymous
    Jun 25, 2018

    Try to offer water, I know they said not to, but for my son works, he’s thirsty at night. I know is not a solution but may help a little. Good luck. What is your trick for falling to sleep by herself? 😁 you’re lucky👏👏👏

  • Stephanie
    Jun 25, 2018

    I really liked Ferber’s advice around night weaning. For each night time feeding you typically do, push it back by 30 minutes every night. That means that you or your husband will need to try and calm your baby via and other way until you reach the pre-defined time, then nurse as usual. Once you’ve moved each about 4-5am, then stop night feeding all together. My guy stopped waking up at that point - if he doesn’t get any milk, he realized there’s no point in waking!

  • Megan
    Jun 26, 2018

    Oh man, it took 5 months of slow work to get him to go to sleep on his own. We started with getting him to fall asleep in his bed at 5 months—patted and soothed as long as it took. Took a detour into rocking to sleep (instead of nursing), but then got serious about falling asleep on his own. Did Ferber for a couple weeks, but after a couple weeks of much much crying, I went to just putting a hand on his back until he was very asleep. Then I realized my being in the room when he fell asleep was likely contributing to night wakings so I made sure last nursing ended 30 minutes before bedtime, did our routine, now he knows I hold my hand on him in the crib for one round of twinkle twinkle and then I say night night. It’s been a process for sure with many set backs. It’s hard for me to cut a certain time of night feeding because his wake ups are all over the place. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think we are just going to have to get over the hump of crying 😩

  • Stephanie
    Jun 26, 2018

    Ugh I hear you - We had a similar experience for awhile. I think the most important thing is consistency - come up with a plan and stick to it. Start on a night where you know your baby isn’t sick or teething so you don’t second guess yourself.

  • Stephanie
    Jun 26, 2018

    Also the fact that he can fall asleep on his own is huge. You know he knows how to do it - he just needs to apply those skills to the middle of the night.

  • Megan
    Jun 26, 2018

    I’m doing this, y’all. Sleep is no longer optional 😂

  • Karlee
    Jul 29, 2018

    We gave our little one some cereal in his last bottle before bed. His belly stayed full all night and he no longer woke for a night feeding.